Saturday, February 28, 2015

Blog marathon completed! Last post :)

So, finally have come to the end of this month long marathon!

It has been exceptionally hard this time, as I had my book tours and a hectic schedule. Despite that I managed to blog every single day, this whole  of February. Hurray!

I blogged from Lucknow, Chandigarh, Delhi and Jaipur. I blogged from airports and hotel rooms. I blogged after book signings and book events. I blogged after being exhausted after a whole day session at the World Book Fair. I blogged after taking two flights and after media conferences. I blogged when I was dog-dead tired and the words were blurring before my eyes. I blogged when I had lots to say and also when I couldn't think of saying anything.

Most importantly, I blogged even when I didn't want to. I think it is important to push your boundaries. That's the only way you grow.

Throughout this blog marathon, there was one person who commented on every single post of mine. Let's give an applause to Alka Singla. Thank you Alka! Even when there was no-one else commenting on a post, I knew there would always be your comment and I was looking forward to comments every single day. (It's a bit disheartening when nobody writes anything back--it feels like talking to a wall!) Also a large dose of thank you to every single person who left a comment on my posts. They helped!

I shall blog again soon.
Till then--take care and have a great Sunday!
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Friday, February 27, 2015

Some more postcards from Lucknow (blog marathon post 27)

Thought I would do a photo post today, as I have some really lovely pictures that I cliked inside the Imamwada during my Lucknow trip.

The steps that lead to the Imamwada

The wonderful Bada Imamwada


 Love the Awadhi architecture.


The beautiful minarets.



The garden inside the compoud of the chotta imamwada.

The mosque against the sunset.

Isn't Lucknow beautiful?

(For those who don't read my blog regularly---I got a chance to visit Lucknow when I was invited for the Lucknow litfest  Click HERE for some snaps that tell you what it was all about)

Do visit Lucknow if you get a chance. There is so much history , beauty and old architecture in the city. And not to mention shopping for chikan work.

I would definitely be going back.
G'nite folks. Till tomorrow.
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Thursday, February 26, 2015

Workout music (Blog marathon post 26)

Music can have an extra-ordinary effect on our brains.  Studies have discovered that it is intrinsic to all cultures and it aids not only in learning languages, but also for improving memory and focussing attention. When we are taught a foreign language we are always taught simple songs or rhymes.

According to a study published in a UK journal, music also helps us to heal and helps to reduce physical pain. "Listening to music can reduce chronic pain from a range of painful conditions, including osteoarthritis, disc problems and rheumatoid arthritis, by up to 21% and depression by up to 25%," says the study. Music also helps reduce blood pressure,  aids post stroke recovery and boosts immunity.

I need my music when I work out. I usually do my cardio  for about 45 minutes on the treadmill and have my i-pod with me.  Music with a high BPM (beats per minute) help me keep up a great pace, as I walk/run. Studies say that the best songs to work out to are those that have 120-140 BPM.  You can start with a song that has a lower BPM (maybe about 80-90) and then as you warm up and increase your speed, you could go to tracks that have a higher BPM. You can check the BPM of any song on this site.

Today, this was the track i began my workout with:





My other favourites are numbers by
Avicii, maroon 5, Calvin harris, Delhi belly's bhag bhag,  Carly rae jaspen, Swedish House Mafia and some evergreen numbers like Bon Jovi's ' It's my Life' and of course my all time favourite Iris by Goo-Goo dolls..

What are your favourite work-out songs?
Leave me a list in my comment box. I want some new tracks  and would love to know what you listen to.
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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Wordless Wednesday no. 45. Sunset


My post for Wordless Wednesday is this Sunset I clicked from my home.
Nature's splendour. A photographer's delight.
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Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Parallel tracks --a poem (blog marathon post 24)

 















Snatched talks
Tug of  hearts
Refraining, holding back
Waiting for a reply
Which always arrives.


A perfect match
Yet parallel tracks
Waving out as paths cross
Discussing transience of emotions
Of  life itself.

Our destinations  different
But together we journey
Making memories.
I am grateful
I replay, I partake
For what is life, if not for moments you treasure?
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Monday, February 23, 2015

These are a few of my favourite things (blog marathon post 23)

One of the best ways to cheer yourself up, when you have had a particularly nasty/busy/draining day is to think of your favourites. Your favourite person, your favourite spot in the house, your favourite drink---all of which instantly bring you joy. Studies have shown that when we look at photographs of those we love, our brains tell our body to release the endorphins and the 'feel-good' factor kicks in.


So when I found this meme on Sunday Stealing on Favourite things, I decided to do it as a blog post.


It asks you to list the following favourites..and I give next to it, my answers as well.

  1. Place: Norwich (part of the book 'The One You Cannot Have' is set here)
  2. Person: Of course Vee :)
  3. Color:  Sometimes yellow, sometimes black and sometimes green
  4. Food: Curd rice
  5. Smell: Chanel 5 or Eternity
  6. Book: Tuesdays with Morrie
  7. Movie: Shawshank Redemption
  8. Music artist:  Gotye, Goo-Goo Dolls, REM
  9. Thing to do when bored: I never get bored!I have so much to do always.
  10. Genre of literature: I don't believe in genres
  11. Magazine: Lonely Planet
  12. Texture: Fresh, crisp cotton
  13. Time of day: Nights
  14. Day of the week : Fridays
  15. Thing to learn about: Love to learn about anything new
  16. Thing about yourself : My determination
  17. Lifehack (a time saving, efficiency technique for life): Discipline!
If you want to do this meme too, feel free to use my comment box. (copy paste the questions from the meme link given in large size) 
I would love to know what your favourite things are! :)

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Sunday, February 22, 2015

Tweets from my timeline on #IndVsSA (blog marathon post 22)

What else can I blog about today, other than the fire-cracker of a victory that India had against SA in the World Cup Cricket. I was watching after a long time and enjoyed thoroughly as is evident from my twitter timelime. I am embedding some popular tweets from my Timeline (and Satish's) for today's post. Enjoy :)

For those of you who do not understand Twitter, click here for a basic guide.
And incidentally, Satish had predicted the win this morning. This is what he tweeted after the match.


And this one:
When Miller's wicket fell :
And when Amla was dismissed, couldn't resist turning to Hindi :)
This tweet:
And this tribute to Ashwin

And of course, using cricket and Twitter to decode relationships:)
and this one:
And finally the aftermath of the match :(I meant Fire-cracker but was tweeting while running on the treadmill, so excuse the typo :-) )
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Saturday, February 21, 2015

5 tips to improve your relationship (blog marathon post 21)

Highlight of my day today was the harvest from our   terrace vegetable garden.

Here is what we harvested:

a) 1.75 kgs of tomatoes.
b) Some long beans.
c) 400 gms bitter gourd.
d)  Some sprigs of Parsley
e)  A bunch of Spinach

f) A bunch of Rocket leaves


Here is Satish posing with the harvest :)




I always feel gardening is a lot like relationships. Here is why

1. You need to invest a lot of time in both.

2.If you neglect it, it withers. If you, in your enthusiasm over-water it, it dies. In relationships space is the equivalent of water. Too much and your relationship suffers. Too little and you kill it.

3.You need a lot of patience for both. You do not get results overnight, in a week or even a fortnight :)

4.You need to weed out the pests ;-) Don't allow them. They creep in slowly without your realising it and you have to be extra careful.

5. It needs a lot of nutrition. In a garden we need to give it nutrients. In a relationship the nutrients are loving gestures like a hug, a kiss, expressing love, a small thoughtful gift or anything that makes your partner feel loved.

  In case this post has motivated you to start your own garden, here is a guide I wrote.
If it has motivated you to think about your relationships, that's great too :)

You can tell me what you think in my comment box. Go on! Don't be shy or scared. I do not bite :)

Till tomorrow--happy nurturing and a happy happy Saturday!
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Friday, February 20, 2015

A doll for my dolly. (blog marathon post 20)





Here is a doll that my daughter and I made entirely from waste material! Isn't she GORGEOUS? We were really pleased when we had finished. We never expected it to come out this well.

Here is another picture.



 It was an old vest that was battered and bruised that formed the body. I just drew a rough pattern by hand, without any reference . I just went by my gut feel. Here is what I had cut out ( from both sides).








Then began the task of stitching it. I stitched all around by hand, leaving a tiny gap for the stuffing and then turned it inside out, stuffed it with poly-fibre from an old pillow which had seen better days, and closed it by stitching around it.

My daughter joked that at this point the doll looked like Augustus Waters.
Okay? Okay.  :)

Then we completed the body


And finally, we stitched the hair and the frock.

We used beads for eyes. And I used embroidery thread to stitch the mouth.

Both of us fell in love with her, after we created her.
We haven't named her yet  though.

What would you name her? Tell me in my comment box.

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Thursday, February 19, 2015

A warm mail and a small clarification (blog marathon post 19)


Here is a mail which I shared on my  Facebook author page today.(shared after taking the permission of the writer, of course)


I get many such mails. And for me, the knowledge that my writing made a difference in someone's life and helped them makes it all worthwhile. This is bigger than any award that anyone can confer on me.

One another thing that I have to clarify is how some people who feel connected with me, because they have read ALL my books, and ALL my posts,think that my expressing my inability to help everyone who writes to me is rude on my part.

I had a reader tell me this  face to face (as 'well intended advice' of course) and I clarified immediately that I definitely cannot help all  who expect to be helped because they have read my books and of course I will say so, without mincing words! Another reader wrote to me pointing out that I sign my books 'with love' to  'people I haven't met' and therefore it is 'rude and shocking' when I say that I do not know about the existence of some people and hence do not appreciate their writing me long mails which share their personal problems, expecting me to advise them.

Honestly I think it is rude on the person's part who writes me the mail, demanding advice about their problems. I can't fix your life. And if you write to any other author whose books you have read, I doubt if you would even get a reply!  (If you do, that is great. I would encourage you to write to them and seek their counsel)

There is a limit to what I can do! And there is a limit to being obliging too!

I think all of us at some point have to learn to say a firm no to requests that are unreasonable to you.
Else you will be walked over.

Till tomorrow---take care and learn to say no :)

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Wednesday, February 18, 2015

A post card from jaipur and from Rock Garden :) (blog marathon post 18)

Yesterday morning, I  was in Chandigarh and  had about an hour or so before we boarded our flight to Jaipur. So I visited the Rock garden and had a WONDERFUL time!
Here is a pic from the visit!


 

 By the time our flight landed in Jaipur (and we had to take a flight from Chandigarh to Delhi and then another flight from Delhi to Jaipur)  it was nearly 5.00 pm and I barely had time to get ready and rush for the event.

But I think we managed more than fine considering the circumstances :)

And here are, as promised in the last post,  some pictures from the Jaipur launch of 'It Happens for a reason'.

 









We had a full house!! If you want to see more pics, you can check out my Facebook Author page--links on the right. Almost every newspaper in Chandigarh as well as Jaipur featured 'It Happens for a Reason' To see the full Media coverage, you can go here. (Go on ! And do check it out :) )

Now I am back in Bangalore. Oh the joy!
Nothing like home sweet home.

I felt like I could sleep for the next few days. And I felt I had earned it.
But then I had to write my newspaper column! Which I did :)

I rewarded myself with something I love doing--but I will leave that to you to guess.

Ciao! Until tomorrow--stay happy!
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Tuesday, February 17, 2015

A fabulous event at jaipur! (blog marathon post 17)

Have just got back from the event at Crossword Bookstore Jaipur and it was a FULL House.
The event was just fabulous. Great turn out, a lot of interaction and a lot of fun.


One reader gifted me silver earrings with Topaz that she made herself!

I am exhausted now as I have taken two flights to get to jaipur today---and as soon as I came, I rushed to the venue---without even having lunch, as I landed at Jaipur only at 4.45 pm, and had to reach the venue by 6.00 pm--after a whole day of travel.

An extremely slow Internet connection here and so I shall share pictures tomorrow.

G'nite folks and thank you for turning out in such great numbers and thank you for all the love.

----An exhausted me.

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Monday, February 16, 2015

One fine day--- at Chandigarh! (blog marathon post 16)

 This is what I woke to this morning.Slight drizzle, cool breeze and a mood of melancholia.
Love it as I sit gazing out of the window sipping a warm cuppa.



Then I visited three book stores--Capital Book Depot, English book store and Browser book store.


 This is me with Ajay, the owner of the Capital book Depot. Can you spot my titles in the background? :)

I met up with readers at Capital Book store--and it was wonderful. One of the readers was so overwhelmed when she saw me that she cried! I was stunned. I gave her a hug.

I had to meet the press after that which i did and I was exhausted. But I had another event at Whistling Duck Chandigarh. By the time I ate lunch it was 3.30 pm. (I was starving)

As soon as I entered the venue, rows and rows of my books greeted me. I was so happy I had to pose for a picture

The event was wonderful. Members of the Chandigarh Literature society attended it.




I spoke about my journey from a blogger to an author. And there were a lot of questions which the audience asked.I also read out from the book.


I
Signed a lot of copies too.

All in all , an excellent day, though exhausting.

And tomorrow I leave for jaipur. If you have friends in jaipur, do tell them I will be at Crossword bookstore at 6.00 pm.

 I am beat, exhausted, tired,burned out and over taxed.
You can recharge me by leaving me comments :) So please feel free to use the comment box.
G'nite folks--and will blog again from Jaipur tomo.

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Sunday, February 15, 2015

Love is in the air. (blog marathon post 15)

Greetings from Chandigarh!

Those of you who want to meet me at Chandigarh, can come to the Capital Book Depot , sector 17, Chandigarh at 12.00 pm on 16th February. I will be there for about an hour.

I have another event in the evening which is an invite only event, and in case you are keen to attend, do write to me and request an invite.

For today's  blog marathon post I am doing a Sunday Stealing Love-is-in-the air-Meme
(click on it to know what it is)




There is what they have asked:


Love, to you. 

Define love in your own words :  Love is being there for each other, come what may. Love is life itself.


What do you want in a relationship? 
A sense of being heard, a large degree of trust and freedom and also belief in me, knowing that I would make wise choices.

What do you contribute to a relationship ?
An element of fun, full and complete support, unconditional love and acceptance of flaws, for I am not perfect either.

Currently..... 
Do you have a Valentine?  Yes and I miss him very much as he and I are apart right now. Can't wait to be together.

Describe the perfect V-day date in your opinion: Long conversations, a well cooked meal, some quiet time and expressing and re-affirming what we mean to each other.

Dream Date? Right now,my dream date would be my bed as I am exhausted and need to sleep.


What is your crush's name?  Saurabh. For further details and a picture of him, click here.

Do you believe in love at first sight? No , but I believe in lust at first site. If you want to know what I mean, watch this video:




This or that 

Chocolates or Flowers....you must pick one!  

Flowers

A short kiss or a big hug? 
Big big big hug.

Cute and dimwitted, or Average and brilliant? 

Average and brilliant anyday. 

Miscellaneous 

Turn-ons? Intelligence and wit combined with  humility, Sincerity and a fit body.

Turn-offs? Intellectual Arrogance or plain arrogance , selfishness and bad manners

What thing should a guy never say to you? Wanna do fraindsheep with me

How do you feel about kissing on the first date? I wouldn't. I would make him wait :)

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Saturday, February 14, 2015

World Book fair Delhi and a Bloggers meet (blog marathon post 14)

So was at the World Book fair Delhi, where I had a fabulous session. Here I am just before going inside the hall for my session
And this is just one side of the audience. I couldn't capture the other side as it wouldn't fit into the frame. We had a fabulous turnout and a great time!


After that I headed out to the Westland stall, and also the Amazon stall. We clicked some interesting pics at the Amazon stall.

I also signed the author's wall.

Amazon tweeted about it:

Then I headed for a bloggers meet at CCD.
It was just awesome to connect with bloggers--all of us like minded people who completely understood each other, when we spoke of our online experiences. They didn't believe that i had two children till i showed them the pictures :)

It was great connecting with them. I made some new friends today and as is evident from the  pictures, we had an amazing time.




I went shopping to after that and bought some stuff  to gift my loved ones, which I am very happy about.

I leave for Chandigarh tomorrow. Those who want to meet me can come to the Capital Book Depot on 16th at 12.00 pm for book signing and an informal chat.

Good night folks.
I shall blog again from Chandigarh tomorrow! I am glad that even though my schedule is extremely hectic I am managing to keep up my blog marathon.
Till tomorrow--stay happy and smile! :)

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Friday, February 13, 2015

A talk at the Lucknow University and Lucknow lit fest (blog marathon post 13)

The folks at Lucknow University are fabulous!I had a wonderful time there this morning, where I gave a talk, about 5 lessons I learnt on my journey from a blogger to an author.

Prof.Nishi Pandey, who is  the Head of Department of English and Modern languages, And also the Director of Planning and development board  , Director is Ineternational collaborations  and the International Students advisor  is a warm and wonderful person. I loved conversing with her. Her depth of knowledge and her perspectives are refreshing and I enjoyed every moment spent with her.

The students of the University came up with some intelligent questions and I enjoyed answering them. One of them made this lovely card for me, and cleverly used all the titles of my books to convey a super-sweet message! Here we are posing with the card. In the picture is Prof.Nishi Pandey, Vishaka (who made the card) and  you know who the third person is :)




This is what she wrote inside the card:


Thank you Vishakha and the University of Lucknow. Let me confess--I loved interacting with all of you too!

Here is a picture of me with the staff and students of Lucknow University who attended my talk.




And here is Prof.Nishi Pandey and me at the Lucknow lit fest.




And here I am posing in front of the Scientific Convention center , Lucknow, where the litfest is being held.



All the pictures above are clicked by Kush Tripathi who was really kind to not only click the pictures, but  he also ensured that they reached me on time for my blog post. Thank you Kush!!

I shall post more pics when I get them.For all the new readers of my blog, you can get all my posts in your inbox as soon as I write them, by subscribing to it from the box on the right side.


I will be at the World Book Fair at  Pragati Maidan, Delhi tomorrow, Hall no.14., Author's corner at 1.00 pm. Come and meet me!

Signing off for now, with the warmth of Lucknow and happy memories of a fabulous day.
 See you tomorrow!
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Thursday, February 12, 2015

Postcards from Lucknow (Blog marathon post 12)


Landed in Lucknow today. Lucknow is a beautiful place. I am having a FABULOUS time here. This is Rumi Darwaza, which is an amazingly beautiful gateway built under the patronage of Nawab Asaf Ud-daulah and is a brillant  display of Awadhi architecture.

This is the Chotta Imamwara built by Mohammed Ali Shah in 1839. If you are interested in it's fascinating history you could read it here.
Apart from the above I went around all of Lucknow, ate the amazing Makhan Malai , visited La Martiniers college and also went shopping. All thanks to Prof.Nishi Pandey who heads the department of English at Lucknow University, where I will also be giving a talk tomorrow, before my session at the Lucknow Litfest.

Then I take a flight to Delhi!

Signing off for now as I have had a long long day, travelled a long long way and have another hectic action-packed day tomorrow.

Good night and don't forget to leave me comments!
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Wednesday, February 11, 2015

A lovely evening! (blog marathon post 11)

Have just got back from the Interactive session at Landmark. It was a FABULOUS session!

This is me, in the car. The mandatory selfie before an event



The love and warmth I got from all of you who turned up there was overwhelming and I do feel awesome about it!

Here is what Pramod, a reader said. (Thanks for the photos Pramod!) The other person in these pictures along with Pramod is Rajkumar Cannebo, who has made it for all my book launches!



Here is what another reader Preethi Venugopal said




There are many many more photos. And many more readers have said lovely things about me.
A huge thank you to all of you who made it today. We had a great time as is evident from these pics.

I am really tired to write anymore today, as I have been on my feet since 5.30 pm. I am off to Lucknow tomorrow. I have an early start to the day.

So goodnight folks. See you in Lucknow at the Lucknow litfest.

I shall be posting from Lucknow tomorrow!
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Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Love , kisses and all things warm (blog marathon -post 10)





Okay--so here is a surprise which i have been working on for the past many weeks! *bugles, Trumpets and drum rolls please*
 Love, Kisses and all things warm. An e-book singlet priced at just Rs.30/- ! (from my columns in FC, and other places). It will be available for download on Feb 14th.
This is what my editor said in the blurb :

In Love, Kisses and Everything Warm, bestselling writer Preeti Shenoy puts together some thoughts on love and its side-effects. Written with her trademark perceptiveness and lucidity, the collection — especially put together for Valentine’s Day — contains five short essays, and five hand-drawn illustrations by the author. With observations on office romances, on what love means to us, why there is no age limit for it, and why kisses are the ultimate expression of passion, this e-book single is a perfect gift for anyone pondering about love, anyone in love, and for everyone who has ever been in love and wants to find it again.

Like it? Leave me a comment!
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Monday, February 09, 2015

Another short extract from 'It happens for a reason'. (Blog marathon post 9)


From page 43 of 'It happens for a reason'.

 I pour myself another drink though. I just want to forget the day’s happenings.
As we wait for the pizza to bake, we talk. I learn that he has studied veterinary medicine at no less than Cornell. He says the college offers a very small number of merit-based scholarships that are awarded on the basis of outstanding academic performance, and there was just one scholarship for an Indian student, instituted by a family of Indian origin, which he had won. Once he completed his course, he worked in one of the best animal hospitals in Brooklyn. He returned to India a couple of years ago and is one of the founder members of the hospital that he currently runs.
‘Wow—no wonder it is this good. You are personally involved in everything,’ I say.
‘Yes, when you are passionate about something, it shows. There is no point doing something that does not make you feel happy just to earn money. If you hate what you are doing, you are then just wasting your life,’ he says and I nod. I can completely relate to that. I made lots of money when my modelling career was at its peak, but I don’t think I enjoyed it at any point of time. I am a far happier person now. Or at least I was happy till this fiasco happened.
‘Yes, I agree completely. Very few people do what they love. Most are stuck in a rut and drag themselves to work. I guess we are among the few lucky ones for whom their work is a passion. My other job is as a fitness instructor, and when I go to the gym, I forget everything. It doesn’t pay as much as Paw-Factor but it does make me very happy.’

The above is a short para from my latest book, which resonates with me. I do believe that money isn't essential to be happy. Once the basic needs are met, where does one draw the 'I am satisfied now' line? There  really is no limit. The more money you make, the more you discover that someone is richer, drives a better car, has a bigger house.

True joy lies in living each day, doing things that you love. I will be talking about all of this and more at my book-events which starts off in Bangalore on 11th Feb at  Landmark,Forum mall, 6.30 pm.

I will be at Lucknow (at the Lucknow lit fest) on 13th Feb , Delhi at the world book fair on 14th Feb, 16th at Chandigarh at Whistling Duck and on 17th at Jaipur at Crossword book stores. If you have friends in those cities, do share the above poster with them.

If you are in any of the above cities, do block your dates. I look forward to meeting you.
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Sunday, February 08, 2015

Alone together (blog marathon post 8)





Of all the different kinds of mails I get, the ones that surprise me most are the ones where people bare their souls, their life problems and their dilemma and ask me for advice. I sometimes wonder why. I know it is because they can connect to my writing. I know it is because they feel I can understand what they are going through. I know it is because they think I can come up with a perfect solution to their problem. But it yet confounds me that they dash off an e-mail to someone who for all practical purposes is a perfect stranger to them and who doesn't even know they exist.  I can't imagine doing that. I love Neil Gaiman's writing, and also Mitch Albom's. But that doesn't mean I dash off a lengthy email to them, telling them all that is going on in my life and expecting them to come up with a solution.
And mostly there is nothing I can do to help them. Many a time it is a problem where the person they are in love with doesn't love them back. Sometimes, it is a break-up story.

Here is  the thing--you cannot make anyone love you. You might love them with all your heart. But they may not reciprocate. They may be busy. You might not be their kind. You might be too needy/clingy. They may not see anything in you.

And you know what---it is best for you to move on. That person you set your heart on is not the only one who is perfect for you. Such a thing doesn't exist. True love grows over many years of being with each other and still enjoying each other's company, doing things together, helping each other grow.
 And as much as you may doubt it now, the person you are meant to be with will surely come along.

Be patient if you are trying to find 'The One.'
And remember---you can be complete by yourself too. You do not need another person to make you feel whole. If  it happens, great.
If not the more time you spend with yourself, the more you learn to enjoy your own company.

Alone doesn't always mean lonely.
And 'together' doesn't always mean happy.
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Saturday, February 07, 2015

Things happen for a reason (blog marathon post 7)



If you are in Bangalore, drop by at Landmark on Wednesday, 11th Feb at 6.30 pm. I will be there. It is going to be an interactive session and you can ask me questions and I will answer. I will also be talking about my journey from an unknown blogger to where I am today :) I do believe #ithappensforareason !
If you are not in Bangalore, but  have friends here who would like to attend, do send them the above invite.

The other day a journalist from 'The Hindu' was interviewing me. (I was later featured on the front page of The Hindu--metroplus)


I was telling the journo that whatever happens to us, does happen for a reason, though the reason is not evident at that time. I do believe that the Universe has a plan for each one of us. We cannot escape our destinies.
No matter what you do, some things just will not happen and sometimes things effortlessly happen to you. There is destiny but then there is free will too. We may not know where the path of life takes us, but we are still driving our car and traveling on the road . Ancient folks tried to make sense of it through things like runes, tarot cards and astrology. They are still in use. There are many who are skeptical about it too. Many swear by it.

I believe that Science still has not found answers to everything. I watched this Ted talk by Anita Moorjani and it made an impact on me.




I have also read many experiences like this one.
If you haven't heard this talk, I urge you to set 18 minutes aside and watch it. It is worth the time spent. And if you have any thoughts on it or anything related do feel free to share.

 I will be back tomorrow with a new post. Until then focus on what you have been blessed with and you will feel positive and happy.
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