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5 tips to improve your relationship (blog marathon post 21)

Highlight of my day today was the harvest from our   terrace vegetable garden.

Here is what we harvested:

a) 1.75 kgs of tomatoes.
b) Some long beans.
c) 400 gms bitter gourd.
d)  Some sprigs of Parsley
e)  A bunch of Spinach

f) A bunch of Rocket leaves


Here is Satish posing with the harvest :)




I always feel gardening is a lot like relationships. Here is why

1. You need to invest a lot of time in both.

2.If you neglect it, it withers. If you, in your enthusiasm over-water it, it dies. In relationships space is the equivalent of water. Too much and your relationship suffers. Too little and you kill it.

3.You need a lot of patience for both. You do not get results overnight, in a week or even a fortnight :)

4.You need to weed out the pests ;-) Don't allow them. They creep in slowly without your realising it and you have to be extra careful.

5. It needs a lot of nutrition. In a garden we need to give it nutrients. In a relationship the nutrients are loving gestures like a hug, a kiss, expressing love, a small thoughtful gift or anything that makes your partner feel loved.

  In case this post has motivated you to start your own garden, here is a guide I wrote.
If it has motivated you to think about your relationships, that's great too :)

You can tell me what you think in my comment box. Go on! Don't be shy or scared. I do not bite :)

Till tomorrow--happy nurturing and a happy happy Saturday!
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Comments

  1. My First book of urs was Life is What You Make It... I hd tears in my eyes..Thanks for writing such a wonderful book

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    1. Thanks and hope you like my other books too.

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  2. I wish i cud hv a signed copy of ur latest book It Happens For a Reason

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  3. Awesome points :) loved the second and third points very much :)

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  4. yes, nature teaches us lots of lessons.the need is to look around, introspect every tiny sound ,and action....even the breeze and rustling leaves tells us there is grace even in acceptance.if we are sweet to others, we give a joy even to the grieving souls...

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    1. Indeed . But hard to be sweet when one is hurting.

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  5. As always wonderful post ! Truly inspiring !

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  6. Fantastic points.. and agree on all of them.... :-)

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  7. Thanks for the points. I read them twice and realized each one is very true when it comes to relationships. Just hope more people would realize these points too.

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  8. I read it once, then once again and again..!!! Tried to put down things, however sometimes its too late in a relationships that there is no word as improvement..!!! It's LIFE and has to GO ON..!!! :(

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  9. Ma'am I jst read ur book, the one u cannot have! I loved anjali's articles BT den I realised dat I haven't followed one!! Nw I want to rectify it... I badly want to... He's nt my boyfrnd... He's my crush!!
    I acted so desperate dat nw he hates me nd blocked me... Ma'am help!! I jst want to be his frnd... His hatred is killing me!!

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