Death of a parent shakes you up in many ways. Especially if it is unexpected and not due to old age. It knocks you like a big iron bar swung hard across your forehead and makes you see for yourself how fragile life is. (That is what happened to me.)
Death of a young person too does the same. It is the many things that could have been done, that could have been said, that could have been achieved which is most mourned for.
Three very powerful words " Could have been".
Most of us never express ourselves completely. Don't ask me why--I don't know. It's easier to just make a joke and laugh it off, than actually say the words, especially to those who matter the most to you. It is that huge block that stands in between you like an insurmountable castle wall, which prevents you from saying what you feel. Heck--most of us numb ourselves so much and refuse to look inside ourselves that we are not even aware what we really feel and what we really want.
Cherished moments are what make life worthwhile and you will be surprised how deep and powerful is the effect of sincere words, when said to people who deserve it.
So here is a list of phrases that you have to say today, (and yes I mean today) to five different people who mean the most to you. Some of you may find it easy. Some may find it hard. But there is no escape, if you have read this far.
You have to say it (or email it)--and you have to do it today. You can tell me in my comment box who the five people are to whom you will say these phrases. If you don't want to give names, give initials or alphabets or nicknames--it does not matter. But give the names. This is because it will make you think and will take you a step closer to saying it.
Here are the phrases:
1. You've changed my life.
2. I need you.
3.I really love you
4.I'm here for you
5.You are a gem.What will I do without you?
As always I give you my answers:
2.My children and my closest friends C and A
Commit in writing.
(Something tells me that Men will really find this exercise that I have given here hard and women will find it easy. Let's see!)
Have you done it?Now, translate that commitment to action and see how you touch someone's life. Words live and are remembered long after the person is gone.
Do it now--it is so important. Don't put if off for later.
Sometimes, later may just be too late.