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Have you stopped having fun in your relationship?




Somewhere down the line, in a relationship that is three years old or more, people slip back into their 'comfort zones.' This is not to say that they were uncomfortable or putting on a mask or their false selves, all the previous years. And again, when I say three years, I don't mean it as a rule of thumb.
It could happen in an year too. Or perhaps in two.

For some reason, women do like to hear the words 'I love you,' when it is expressed sincerely, when it is heartfelt and not forced or unnatural. To some guys, saying it comes easily. To others, it is hard to say. They prefer showing it in different ways like driving all the way to her office to pick her up, or ensuring that he is available when she wants to talk, and he truly listen to her.

I think it is important to keep the romance alive, in a relationship. If you have stopped having fun together, and if you rarely laugh together, then it is time to think about what is it that has gone wrong. These are early warning signs.


If you are fortunate enough to have a person who loves you deeply, and respects you for who you are, do take a few moments out of your day, to let them know.

I think  there never can be adequate gestures of appreciation and love.
Love does make the world go round.

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Comments

  1. Such a meaningful post and such a sweet you in the picture. Love you loads ma'am. 😘

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  3. This is indeed food for thought

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  4. "It is important to keep the romance alive, in a relationship. " Well said and true indeed.

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  5. Nice and meaningful post. Noteworthy.

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  6. Very meaningful post Preeti. But ending a toxic relationship is sometimes the best thing you can do.

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  7. Mam, your post is thought-provoking..And your smile in the picture says it all ! Pl. share ways in which a wife can show appreciation for the husband.

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  8. Never been in a relationship so can't really comment on it so just thought I'd say Hi

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  9. Such an interesting perspective to keep the flame alive, Preeti. It is the small acts that rekindle romance.

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  10. Lovely post! I really enjoyed reading it. You are looking wondering standing next to a vase of beautiful flowers. It is always important to keep the relationship alive, because we never know when the flame will start burning!

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  11. Hello ma'm
    After reading all your books one by one, I am here just to say 'hi'. I am a big fan of yours. Today i am very happy as i will get to read your staff always from now on.
    Lots of love
    Anjilina❤

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