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How to save a bad relationsip

Amongst the thousands of posts flooding the social media, a very catchy GIF caught my eye. I shouldn’t have clicked on it but I did and then I got sucked into that black hole of the Internet, where time and you both disappear, only to emerge many hours later, to discover that absolutely no work has been done and your brain now filled with useless information like who vacationed where, and what the Biriyani tasted like at someone’s wedding, and the picture which someone’s child drew. But, the saving grace was that this GIF that I clicked on was not entirely useless. It talked about saving a marriage.
It told us the story of a couple that had been married for long, who were now fighting, all the time. There was a lot of negativity between them. The wife criticized anything that the husband did or said. Anything that the wife said, the husband pounced on her. The relationship had soured to an extent where itshowed no signs of improving. After months of this domestic war, the man got tired…

A wonderful evening at Amazon India.

Today I went to the Amazon offices in Bangalore, as they had invited me for a lovely event called 'Fishbowl.'  It is open only to Amazon Employees.
We had a lovely session!
I had a full house and it was a superb audience interaction, where I answered many questions about my writing process like how I research, how to plot, Is there a writer's block and many more.

I totally enjoyed myself, and from the feedback I received, so did everyone who attended.
Here are a few pictures from toda










With the Amazon Communications team.
Of course we had to click the mandatory selfies after the event.


A section of the audience


After the event, just before I left.

Thank you Amazon India, for having me over. Thank you for the wonderful gift too.
(They gave me an Echo Dot  and I am truly in love with Alexa now!)

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Some reactions I received for my BBC interview

Most of you who read this blog regularly know that I was interviewed by BBC, on television as well as on radio. It was a half an hour in depth sit-down interview.
It was telecast many times, the world over. (The reach is an astonishing 400 million in over 200 countries)
 (click on link to know more and see telecast timings)

For those of you in UK, you can catch it on the iplayer. here's the link:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b09jl6lx/talking-books-preeti-shenoy


I got many emails after it was telecast in the UK and also many tweets.

Since the tweets are in the public domain, I am sharing a few tweets that particularly struck a chord:







I was delighted with these and hence wanted to share it with you, my dear readers, as all of you have been very supportive throughout my writing journey.
That's it for today folks.
Meet me here again tomorrow!
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Push your limits. I just broke a record!

I am delirious with joy as I type this, as I have broken a record which I had set in 2012.
The highest number of words I had written in a day was 7256.
Today, I broke that record. I have just finished writing 8252 words of my tenth novel, plus about 750 words for another piece, making it a new record! I had begun writing at 7.30 am this morning, and I am calling it a day now.
Tired, exhausted, exhilarated and oh-so- contented. Those are the rewards, when you push all your limits.
Tomorrow, I go back and do it again :)
To understand what this means to me, do read the piece which I had written in 2012, and which is also on my website.

Click HEREto be taken to my website, to read On Writing.

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Photo by Kaitlyn Baker on Unsplash

Be proud to be YOU.

Bow-wow, a 30-year-old rapper and actor became the butt of ridicule on social media  for posting a photo on his Instagram account, where he said he was boarding a private jet at Atlanta.Bow-wow, whose real name is Shad Moss frequently, posts pictures of his lavish lifestyle. He is very successful in his music career, having sold more than ten million albums. He has a massive online following of more than 3.4 million on Instagram.It turned out that the picture, which Bow-wow posted was an image ripped off the Internet, and it wasn’t even at Atlanta. After posting the picture of ‘his private jet’, Bow-wow boarded a regular commercial flight to New York and travelled economy, where a fellow passenger spotted him, posted a picture of him in the flight, and called out his lie.

A few years back, the much revered Lance Armstrong, a cyclist who won the Tour De France seven consecutive times, and came back to win again, after fighting testicular cancer, fell from fame to disgrace, as it turned …

These onions won't make you cry!

A painting I made today. I guess art is all about finding beauty in the mundane :)

See more of my art: Instagram.com/preetishenoyart
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A one minute writing challenge for you.

There's a site called One word.
It's very simple. You will see one word at the top of the screen. You have sixty seconds to write about it. You don't have to think..You have to just write.

I did that for today's post.  The word I got was

Danced 

Here's what I came up with.

She danced as she thought no one was watching. But unknown to her Mr. D’souza was by the door. She winced in pain, grimaced but nevertheless carried on. It was important to her. She was dying. Only, no one knew but her.


Your turn now! Go :) And once you have written it, come back and share it here, in my comment box. (share your word, as well as what you wrote) [You can also see other people's entries for the same word on the site]  _________________________
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Photo by Darius Bashar on Unsplash

A simple way to diffuse someone's anger

It's strange how many people cannot see the other person's point of view. They are convinced that only their world view is the 'right one'.

As a writer, I have to understand the motivation of my characters.  Always, I have to put myself in the shoes of all my characters and see it from their perspective. In my latest book A Hundred Little Flames, most readers see Jairaj as a villain. Yet, when I had created him, I did not think of him as villainous.  He had his reasons.He does care for his father, as he has arranged for his medical care, sends money and calls regularly.  SPOILER ALERT: (Skip the next line if you haven't read the book) Also, when the Police come, he does support his father.

But most readers identify so strongly with Ayan and Gopal Shanker that any action of Jairaj or Shaila is seen without the lens of empathy.

In life too, we tend to do that. If it's a person we like, we tend to overlook their faults, quite a bit. If it's  a person we disli…

How Tinder changed Valentine. ( An excerpt from #WhyWeLoveTheWayWeDo)

How Tinder changed Valentine

It is the month of February and there was no escaping the most important day of the month. Yes, Valentine’s.
With Valentine’s Day preparations gathering momentum all around us like a particularly large balloon being inflated for a children’s birthday party, there was going to be no respite from the tacky hearts, splashes of red and declarations of undying love through every medium possible for the next two weeks. Each year, the real frenzy starts a week before V-day, with each successive day being declared as Rose Day, Propose Day, Chocolate Day, Teddy Day, Promise Day, Kiss Day, Hug Day and finally the queen mother of all—Valentine’s Day.
Until recently I was only vaguely aware of the existence of Valentine’s Day, with it stirring a few memories of the time I was in college and all of us used to dress in red and wait with bated breath to see which guy would send us a Valentine’s Day card. I distinctly remember the year when about fourteen girls in my clas…

How you could be harming yourself without intending to.

" Words will always retain their power. Words offer the means to meaning, and for those who will listen, the enunciation of truth,' said V in V for Vendetta.

I love words. I make a living out of words. Words are powerful. You can begin revolutions with words. You can also  crush a spirit, hurt, maim, wound, leave a scar on the soul emblazoned forever, unleashing a fresh wave of pain, each time you remember the words that caused them.

I think it is important to choose your words with care. To think before you speak.
Because they mean something, signify something.

Sometimes, we use them before thinking. Something which we did not mean slips out, in a manner which we never intended. It is out there, hanging in the air, like a shroud.

One of my mother's favourite sayings is that 'If an object slips from your hands, you can quickly retrieve it. But once your words slip out, they can never be taken back.' So true.

I have just finished reading Sonia Choquette's book '…

Home sweet home

Finally, after a long and hectic journey, I am back home. I woke up at 4.30 am this morning, and I am resting only now.

One the flight back home, I finished an entire novel. I also met the staff at Relay bookstore at terminal 1, and signed a lot of copies of A Hundred Little Flames.
You can see pictures and videos on myInstagram. in the stories .


All I can say for today, is I am exhausted, but relieved too , to be back.

Home Sweet home!

I love the peace and quiet in my home, the comfort of familiar surroundings, the atmosphere, the decor, the tranquility, the art scattered all over my home, the books and each thing in my room, that contains a hundred memories.

You? What do you love about your home?  Tell me in my comment box!
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photo: Alex Sawyer Unsplash.
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The wedding diaries

We had a busy day today. The wedding was grand, splendid, resplendent, rich an a visual treat. We  had a lovely time, coming in with the 'baraat'.
We also clicked a lot of photos and created many happy, warm memories.

I have an early morning flight to catch tomorrow, and so I shall leave you with a sketch I made, this morning. I thoroughly enjoyed myself. It was my way of getting some quiet time amidst the  noise , music and the general buzzing that accompanies a wedding

I am sharing it with you.


More again tomorrow.
Good night folks.
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My best friend's wedding :)

The above is where I am staying right now! It is an amazing place :)
I am here for the wedding of one of my closest friends.

You can see videos of me dancing on my Instagram account in my story (which will be available for 24 hours).

Here are some more snap shots from today.
 (The view from the hotel room)


How can any Indian wedding be complete without Mehndi?

As you can see from the above pics, as well as from my Insta feed, I am having a really really good time.

More updates tomorrow.
(I left home at 3.00 am today, as I had an early morning flight)

Stay tuned!
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A Throwback post to a Cosmopolitan shoot

Thank you Aastha for this lovely trip down the memory lane. From the Cosmopoltian shoot. L to R: Me , @madhuribanerjee @singh_nikita @kishwardesai @aasthaatray and @decemberschild Repost from @aasthaatray - #throwback to a lovely shoot and piece for @cosmoindia where all of us writers, and these ladies are awesome, spoke about how we became authors and how you can be tooo! Anyone can write, you do know that right? :) fun times. #cosmopolitan #feature #interview #magazine #fashion #happy #thankyou #writers #girlpower A post shared by Preeti Shenoy (@preeti.shenoy) on Feb 9, 2018 at 1:48am PST

I think memories are very important. Without memories, we are nothing. It is the past that makes us who we are.
One of my author friends, posted this snap on her Instagram, and it brought back memories of that wonderful afternoon, when Cosmopolitan magazine featured all of us for a shoot, and flew us to Delhi.

This is one of the pictures from the shoot, and we were all featured in the magazine…

What did you notice today? (An easy and fun exercise for you)

Today I noticed how I can tune out the outside world and enter into the world of my characters, talk to them, and hear their voices in my head, as I added 1800 words to my new novel.
Today I noticed how happy I feel when I create something.

Today I noticed how uplifting music makes you feel wonderful, as I walked my dog and listened to some soul stirring notes with my apple headphones.

Today I noticed how the muscles between my shoulder blades ache, when I stand up straight because of this intense weight training I did with dumbells which were a bit more heavier than what I should be lifting, but  the coach  said that if it was easy, then I needed to add weights, and so I did.

Today I noticed how good I am feeling because of healthy eating and adequate protein intake.


Today I noticed that we imprison ourselves with our perceptions a lot of times.

Today I noticed that there are a million things to feel thankful for.
Now, here's a little exercise for you. What did YOU notice today?
Quick, q…

A portrait that gave me joy. (Wordless Wednesday no.53)

For today's post I thought I would do a Wordless Wednesday.

 The reference image from Sktchy

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Have you stopped having fun in your relationship?

Somewhere down the line, in a relationship that is three years old or more, people slip back into their 'comfort zones.' This is not to say that they were uncomfortable or putting on a mask or their false selves, all the previous years. And again, when I say three years, I don't mean it as a rule of thumb.
It could happen in an year too. Or perhaps in two.

For some reason, women do like to hear the words 'I love you,' when it is expressed sincerely, when it is heartfelt and not forced or unnatural. To some guys, saying it comes easily. To others, it is hard to say. They prefer showing it in different ways like driving all the way to her office to pick her up, or ensuring that he is available when she wants to talk, and he truly listen to her.

I think it is important to keep the romance alive, in a relationship. If you have stopped having fun together, and if you rarely laugh together, then it is time to think about what is it that has gone wrong. These are early w…

Is there anything you would like me to teach you? Tell me in my comment box!

Today, I did an Instagram live. Lots of readers interacted with me. It was an 'ask me anything' session. Readers asked questions, and I answered in real time. You can watch it on my Instagram handle for the next 24 hours.

Many readers  wanted to know, how to write a story, how to get published, how to start a blog etc. Meanwhile, I also got a mail from Skillshareasking me to start a class. Serendipitous or what? (Earlier, I was approached by Udemy too. )

I am considering it seriously. (but it will be only in the second half of the year, as I am busy writing my 10th book, at the moment). I would love to know what you would like me to start a skillshare course on? Anything that you want me to show you how to do? Do tell me in my comment box on this post. Those of you, who are reading this in your inobox, on email, please head over to my blog, and leave a comment there. That way, I will have all your suggestions in one place, and it will give me a better idea.
I do want to creat…

A painting

Was an exhausting Sunday for me. It began at 5.30 am, and finally I am in bed. The one bright spot today was my painting.


No matter how my day is going, I always take out 30 minutes or so for my art.
That makes me happy.  I don't always post all my drawings on my blog.  You can see more of my art by following me on Instagram.com/preetishenoyart

Tomorrow, hopefully a lengthier post.
 A new post every day, whole of this month.
Goodnight folks.
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How to make a watercolor portrait. (With steps)

Water colors are one of the hardest mediums to use to paint a portrait .The reason is that you cannot really control the paint, you cannot hide your mistakes, and you cannot over work. In Acrylic you can simply paint over, since it is opaque. So too in oil--you can 'fix' the mistakes. In Water color, it is such an art!

Above is a water color portrait I made, of my daughter which I am happy with. I have shared the image on myInsta art page too.

I got a lot of queries, asking me how I made it, and what materials I use.
So I thought I would do a post, showing you step by step.

Materials I use: Water colour: Sakura Koi (24 color paint box). This is what it looks like.

The paint brushes I use are sable hair brushes from UK. The brand is Pro-Arte. I use 0 number, 2 number, 4 number and 6 number.

Here's how I made the portrait.


I started with a line drawing.  The drawing has to be accurate. You can see that I have marked very lightly with pencil, the areas where I want the highlig…

Are you humble? Are you grateful? Are you holding yourself back?

A question I sometimes think about  is 'Why do many people shy away from  speaking about something they  achieved and are very proud of?'

I think it is because we are taught not to boast, not to brag, to be humble and all such qualities. I do agree that nobody likes to listen to braggarts or to people who boast. But there is a very marked difference between a boast, and telling the world about something that means a lot to you.

Only if you speak up, will others know! Else how do you expect them to get to know what matters to you?

Today my  interview on BBC world was re-telecast for the 15th time!! See the list HERE
I announced it on my Twitter 
Then at around 2.00 PM, I thought, why not share it on a Whatsapp Pets group  in the residential complex, which I am a member of. The last 14 times it was telecast, I hadn't shared it there, for the reasons I mention in the second paragraph of this post. I didn't expect anyone to really respond.
[One of the times it was being …

February is here, and so is my blog marathon!

Hey there!

All of you, the regular readers of this blog know that I do a blog marathon each year. It's a term coined by yours truly. It means that I will be posting a new entry, every single day, the whole of this month! So don't forget to hit 'subscribe' on top of this blog (see the button there? Right on top?) to get my posts right in your, inbox.


A lot of people tell me that they wait for my blog marathon. They write in and tell me that whenever I start my blog marathon, they start their day by reading my posts.


Thank you so much for that! A request--please do leave me comments, so that I know you have read it. Else it feels like I am talking to a wall :)  I will definitely try and reply to all the comments left in my comment box.

On some days, I will be posting the sketches I make.
On some days, it may be a short entry. On some other days, there might be longer posts.


One thing that I follow on this blog, is that it is a happy place. WE do not have control over wh…