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Why some people are always lucky!






Sully, a movie we watched some time back,enthralled me, though I must admit that what made me book the tickets, were just two names associated with the movie—Tom Hanks and Clint Eastwood. Having seen the ones Tom Hanks starred in, and the ones Clint Eastwood directed --and of course starred in too, I am a fan of the Westerns--- my expectations were high and I was not disappointed. It is a film which is a biographical drama, about the US airways flight 1549, and  its pilot Chesley Sullenberger, who made a dramatic landing of his plane on the River Hudson, after being hit by a birdstrike. He saved the lives of all passengers on board. Sullenberger is a hero in his home country, and US President George Bush called him to thank him for saving the lives of passengers. Obama invited him and the entire crew to to join the presidential inauguration ceremony.

Even though he landed the plane safely, Sully is under an investigation, and stands to lose everything he has worked for his entire life.  What struck me most about the movie, was the one sentence that Sully utters, which changes his perspective. Spoiler alert—Please skip this paragraph, if you plan to watch the movie. In a scene in the bar, he watches a television anchor say, that it is all about the timing. I will not reveal how this affects what follows next.

Long after the movie, those words remained with me. In life too, it is all about the timing.  The situations that occur might have turned out differently if the split second decision we made was wrongly timed. The people we meet, the interactions we have, the relationships we develop—it is just because it was timed perfectly.  It is almost as if there is a conspiracy going on behind the scenes for every event that happens before, to align perfectly in perfect time, if someone has to meet.

Sometimes, one might have known a person for years, and might have interacted with them in a regular manner, which they are used to. And yet, it might be that one moment which they share which changes how they feel towards each other. At other times, chance meetings with perfect strangers have an infinite potential to change your life.
Psychologists and scientists have investigated into the phenomenon of  ‘chance encounters’ and have concluded that a large part of how we ‘attract luck’ has actually to do with how we think, how open we are to new possibilities and how we view the world. While we have no control over the randomness of the events that occur to us, what we can control is how we react to them, and how we grab the opportunities presented to us.

Richard Wiseman, one of Britain’s most respected and popular psychologist, also the author of The Luck Factor among many other books, has been studying why some people seem to have all the good fortune in the world, and why others seem to be magnets for disaster. Wiseman conducted many interesting experiments and concluded that the ‘unlucky people’ are generally tense, anxious and are too focussed on their problems. The ‘lucky ones’ are more open to the possibilities, that anything unusual can bring. They have positive expectations and create self-fulfilling prophecies , and when they encounter misfortune, they are more resilient. They also are more likely to spot chance opportunities and act on them, when compared to ‘unlucky’ people. The ‘unlucky people’ he noted, tended to be creatures of routine. They followed the same pattern in their lives, took the same routes to work,  and met the same kind of people. The ‘lucky ones’ introduced variety into their lives, met different kinds of people, and generally kept their ears and eyes open.

Many travellers on airplanes hate any kind of small talk and usually put on their headphones, and listen to music or read a book. A few get talking, and convert a chance meeting into something eventful. A few others go on to make business contacts. Some even strike up lifelong friendships, and some meet the love of their lives.
A chance meeting with someone might turn out to be boring or interesting, depending on what makes you light up with anticipation. Opening up, is a chance one decides to take. You can gingerly side step these encounters, and go back to routines, pretending they never happened. Or you can go with the flow, and see where the path takes you.


The choices we make have the power to change our lives forever. It’s all in the timing. Some call it luck.
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Comments

  1. Great post for the Christmas day mam. The theory set above somewhere relates to law of attraction theory and yes I completely agree with your post.we attract as per our thoughts.

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  2. So well written! This is how I had a chance encounter with the very first book you had written. Enjoyed every book till the latest The Rule Breakers and will continue to do so!
    Cheers,
    Pratz

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  3. Excellent post, Preeti. I felt as if you walked inside my mind and wrote down everything which was in it. I do agree with the statement - It's all about timing! Sometimes, I got things very easily in life because I got the right things at the right time. Sometimes, due to my laziness or cowardliness, I missed out on getting something that would have changed my life. Most of the time, luck has played an important role in making me the person I am today. Really loved this post soooooo much, Preeti! Once again, Merry Christmas to you and your family!

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  4. Really nice article. I do agree with statement it's all about timing and how do we take decisions on those timing. It's very inspiring statement.

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  5. Everytime you write,I learn something it might be new or remind about forgotten important lesson.I enjoy reading your post and articles. And me too fan of Clint Eastwood.He is getting old,still got that million dollar flamboyance and timing.😊

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  6. This is also what B K Shivani preaches. Out thoughts change the way we attrack luck in our lives.

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  7. Very true. Sometimes the decision we take may influence our whole our life. I always wonder about these things like Destiny, chance , luck etc. You have summarized it here so beautifully.

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  8. This is a fantastic blog. I loved every bit of it. I learn new things again. It is so pure. Thank you for this post, Ma'am.

    Love,
    Sarmista.

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