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Forty seven things I learnt.

I turned 47 today. This is a picture clicked today. I received a lot of flowers today.

The older I get, the more grateful I am for everything that I have in my life. Today, I am living my dream. There's nothing more I ask from life!
The path hasn't been easy at all. There have definitely been so many downs. When I look back, I think for every victory of mine, there has been a failure. But I have fought. I am a fighter. I never give up.
Persistence pays.
Age has made me wiser, calmer and very very sure of many things.
Here are 47 things I have learnt along my path. These are things I practise.

1. Say NO to negativity of any kind.
2. People will treat you the way you allow them to.
3. If people really care for you, they will make time; Otherwise they will make excuses.
4. Be grateful for every one who is kind to you.
5. Better to have TWO genuine friends who truly care for you than a HUNDRED friends who aren't so genuine.
6. Fitness is everything.
7.Always have a 'nest egg' set aside just for yourself, which you can dip into.
8. Do one thing every day which grows your mind.
10. Meditation always helps. Even a ten minute calming one relaxes you.
11. Business is business. Don't every get emotional about it.
12. Be  ethical but ruthless when it comes to business.
13. Your colleagues are NOT your friends.
14. Go where you are celebrated not tolerated.
15. If someone  constantly puts you down, cut them out of your life.
16. Laugh a lot.
17. Wait. It is coming!
18. Believe in something bigger than you.
19.Write--it helps.
20. Think about why someone less privileged than you  is unkind or rude.
21. Take time for yourself, and don't feel guilty about it.
22. Dress well.
23. Thank people who are nice to you.
24.Clear clutter from your home regularly.
25. Have a 'sacred space' in your home--just for yourself.
26. Stay hydrated.
27. You don't have to be like everyone else. You don't have to fit in.
28. Learn to cook.
29. It is okay to let go.
30. People change. We change.
31. If someone doesn't answer your call, never call them again!
32. Your heart will be broken.
33. You will heal.
34. You will do things you never thought you ever would.
35. When the time comes, you will have the strength.
36. You will lose a parent.
37. You will learn to go on, but every happy moment from now on will be tinged with sadness.
38. You never have control over anything, even when you think you do.
39. Signs from Universe are real!
40. Listen to your spirit.
41. Make time for doing that one thing you would do even if nobody paid you.
42. When you feel alone, you can always turn to a book.
43. It will end.
44. Something new will replace it.
45. Blaming yourself isn't productive
46. Every once in a while, the person who you depend on will disappoint you. It's okay!
47. Choose which battle to fight.

And finally (a bonus one) --We do not have control over what happens to us, but we always have control over what we choose to FOCUS on!

Thank you to all of you who wished me today.
Lots of love to you all.
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  1. Preetiji you live video with your daughter was really sweet.Bless her and a very Happy Birthday to you.and yes i feel Hero is a kinda of a cute name for your little pet.

  2. Wishing a very happy birthday to the best author i have ever read.

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  4. a very hearty happy birthday mam, truly as always this blog post is also too inspiring!

  5. Wish you a very happpy birthday mam..your blogs are inspiring unique in its own to read them all ...

  6. A very happy bday mam. Wish you all the goodness in life. I really admire and look up to u

  7. A very happy birthday ma'am, wish you a beautiful year ahead. Lots of love an prayers.

  8. Cheers. Happy birthday. Your tips are great and very much helpful. Keep on writing and motivating us. God blessed you.

  9. Wonderful mam... Happy birthday.
    God bless!

  10. Happy bday ma'm! :) And it's like you gave us the bday gift... :) Such motivational things you have just shared with us.. Thank u so much.. And the last thing is the best!!!

  11. Belated Happy Birthday Preeti. Beautiful post. All 47 suggestions are gems of wisdom and experience.

  12. I am going to print these 47 things and paste on my wall.

  13. You know what ma'm!! I love you very very much.. happy birthday to my role model!! I don't have anything to give you on your birthday except love..
    Lots of love to my favourite author.. ❤️❤️❤️ I just hope this December never ends! I feel very fortunate to hear from you everyday. It's relaxing and full of motivation!!

  14. Hi Preeti.   It was so nice to wish you on your special day.  I was thrilled to be a part of the LIVE session.  Happy that we all go to meet Purvi.  Now I know where she got her artistic skills from.  The 47 things you wrote were very inspiring.  Some of those points look quite familiar to me as many have told me to follow them too.  Maybe I will take a print out of it and read it everyday. Take care.   

  15. Happy Happy wala birthday....😊

  16. A print out of this goes onto my book shelf ma'am. You are my role model. :-)


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