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Things to remember when you seek advice (blog marathon post 29)





Sometimes, when we are stuck in a problem, where no solution seems to emerge despite our best efforts, we turn to friends. Or our trusted ones. We believe that their advice is going to offer a fresh perspective. It will help us find something that we might have overlooked. If we are really desperate, we hold on to whatever they say. Or at least think about it.

The thing here that we forget is no two people look at the same thing the same way. It might as clear cut as a rock. Yet, when viewed from an angle that is ever so slightly different from yours, it appears different. To that extent, the advice given is skewed.

What then do we do? Do we take no advice at all? Do we seek no help? Do we mulishly trudge along, with a try-and-fail-and-discover method?

No. I think the answers are within us. But sometimes, emotions cloud our judgement so much that we are unable to see. The thing to remember is never to take any decision, when emotions are tumultuous. One needs to sleep over a problem. Give it time

You would be surprised how many problems get resolved by doing nothing about it. We leave it alone and it vanishes. We discover that it was of magnitude only inside our heads.

Take this date two years ago. What were you going through? What were you worried about most? Hasn't it  been resolved? Does it tell you something?

Wisdom, they say lies is knowing when to interfere with a problem, and when to leave it alone.
And strength is what you need, when things don't always go according to plan.

I wish you strength. And I wish you wisdom.
And I wish you a lot of time --to dream, to explore and to discover new things. For it is only then that you grow.
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Comments

  1. rightly said mam! we unnecessarily get disturb wen we r caught in any vicious circle.. we get so preoccupied wid it dat we cant see the solution.. we need to give tym nd analyse the events wid patience.. evrythng gonna b alright.

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  2. But isn't it in contradiction with the age old adage which goes like a stitch at a time saves nine. Haven't we had troubles which accumulate and pile up just because we ignored them in its nascent stage ?

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  3. Preeti, this message has come well in time for me, have been stuck in something and was asking and analysing a lot, now I know what to do, thanks again

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  4. But what if the problem 2years back is still the problem. ..time going on but still no solution..I agree some problems get solved with time but there are some problems which gets complicated as time gies on...early the decision thats good

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  5. right preeti mam,Now iam clear about,solution is with us only , so,"for every problem solution is there" but we need think peacefully, thanks for ur advice ...

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  6. On doing nothing is a way of setting our mind in peace. Congrats

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