Disappointment and unhappiness in relationships comes from expectations. We expect something and then we are disappointed and sad, when the person did not behave in the way we wanted them to. We feel let down. We feel insulted. We feel that we give too much, in the relationship--in other words, we are overwhelmed by a sense of disappointment.
'I called her 5 times--she didn't once bother to call back'.
'I remembered his birthday, but he forgot mine and did not even wish me'.
'It is always me who makes the effort to call her. She never bothers.'
'He/she takes me for granted.'
'I feel so used in this relationship.'
If any of the above are applicable to you, you have been besieged by the burden of expectations. You are carrying a load which is getting heavier by the day and unless you shrug it off, you can be sure that it will build up to a point where your relationship will break.
How do we break this burden?
Doesn't love go hand-in-hand with mutual understanding and mutual acceptance? Aren't you supposed to live happily ever after?
The answer is yes--but conditions apply. The happily-ever-after is a lot of hard work.
If you think your relationship is worth making that effort, worth working on, then you have to be prepared to work hard to make it succeed?
Watch this space tomorrow.
Starting today, this blog will be updated a lot more regularly than usual. I am aiming for a blog-post every single day. Like a blog marathon that I have done earlier.
I would be blogging extensively on topics that are useful, practical and 'doable'. If you would like to receive my posts ion your inbox, enter your email id in the box on the right side of this blog.
I shall update this blog tomorrow on what you have to be willing to do, if you want your relationship to go a long long way.
And yes---if you leave me comments, I will be motivated to blog a lot more regularly! ;-) So tell me what you think of it, in my comment box.
Have a lovely weekend!
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