#Askpreeti had been getting a phenomenal response. Every Thursday, you can ask me anything on my FB page, and I will blog my answer. You can scroll down and read the last two #askpreeti posts, one was on 'Ten things to do when someone does not love you back' and the other was 'How to become a better writer.'
Today I have picked reader Shubha Mallya's question on friendship.
We all love our friends. And yet there are times when we have to make difficult choices. How much should we interfere in a friend's life? What if they tell you that they do not need your help? Is it wrong if we expect them to lean on us in their difficult times? What if they are busy when you need them?
Here are five things that help me when I have to make a decision about my friendships.
1. Respect their choices: If your friend had told you that this is what they have chosen because that is what works for them, accept it. You might be as close as siblings. You might be soul sisters. …
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Today I picked three questions which are related. Readers-- Vishad Gupta, Risita Ghadei and Varsha Gaikwad asked me about how to improve English and asked about writing better and editing better.
First of all I must reiterate that I am still learning how to write better! I might be a successful novelist but of course I am still a student. With each book I write, I am getting better. But there is a long way to go.
How did I start writing my first novel--what my journey was like--I have blogged…
This morning when I opened Bangalore Mirror , I found myself looking at my own picture. A little later, a reader tweeted to me a link to Deccan Chronicle and the publishers of two of my titles, told me that the piece was in Asian Age as well.
While I had spoken to both newspapers (To Deccan Chronicle many days back and I had forgotten about it and to Bangalore Mirror last evening) I did not think both would appear on the same day.
Whenever the newspapers carry a piece about me or my books, I always tell my mom. Today was no different. My mom was more interested in telling me about the rains in Kerala though. She talked about how the rains had lashed her village last evening and how there was no power through out the night. We inhabit two different worlds. In her world, what is important is not in mine.
I like the stark contrasts. It gives me completely different perspectives.
And makes me focus on what really matters---my writing.
Remember I had mentioned about #Askpreeti series? Well, it starts off today! Every Thursday, I shall blog my answer to a question, which you have asked. You can ask me questions with #askpreeti tag either on my FB pageor tweet to meusing #askpreeti
Today's question that I picked, asked by reader Dixita Mour.
Question asked : Should we choose between our passion or family? You are very successful in managing both--family and work. What should one do?
Family is the basic unit from which we start our life. What we learn from our families, helps us deal with different social situations. In a way, it is the family that is providing us the 'blue-print' to our personality. We then grow up, get a job and start our own families.
There can never be a perfect work-life balance. At any given point of time, you will always be tugged by both. For me too, it is the same.
When my children were much younger, I chose to give up my corporate career as I wanted to be around for them. Now …
Today I had a long interview with one of the National newspapers. I spoke in depth about my next book. The interview was fun but also a lot of work. The thing about interviews is that you have to focus completely on what you have to say, as you would be quoted by the newspaper. Unlike when I am writing, when I have all the time in the world to choose my words carefully, in interviews, I have to think on my feet.
Today was also a stressful day as I also had to let one of my staff go. One thing I cannot stand is insolence and being rude. On top of that not being punctual.
In my books, being on time means respecting the other person. Acknowledging that their time is as valuable as yours by not making them wait.
Also another thing I cannot stand is 'chalta hai' attitude. I give my one hundred percent in everything I do. I expect the same from my staff, especially if I am paying about 30-35 percent higher than the market rate.
I think sometimes a clean break is needed, if somethin…
Yesterday I told you that I would write about things that you can do, so that you feel a little less disappointed in your relationships. It is easy to say 'Have no expectations and then you won't be disappointed'. But how is that possible? Of course, it is only human to expect. I do expect those I love to be supportive of me, understand me and be there for me. I would do the same for them. That is natural. You have to be Buddha or Mother Teresa to not expect anything at all, out of a relationship and to exhibit supreme patience.
What can you do if the other person is not responding to you? What can you so if things are not going the way you want them to? How do you rid yourself of the burden of expectations.
Here are 5 things that will help you to make your relationships better.
1. Stop making excuses for the other person: If the other person wants to call, they will make time and call anyway. Nobody--not even a top notch movie-star is that busy. It is a matter of priori…