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Life's laws



All of us, sooner or later have to face life's blows. Oh ,she hits hard. Sometimes she hits to hurt, sometimes she hits to kill. Sometimes she hits just for the fun of it. You are powerless with her blows, and you never know when the next one is coming. If you survive the blows, you emerge stronger, much stronger than ever before. If you don't survive--well, you cease to exist.

The thing to remember if you are going through some difficulty is that, five years from now, will this truly matter? Think back how your life was, five years back. For most of us, life would have indeed taken a turn. Five years back, I was totally shattered, broken and a wreck.(I lost the person who meant the world to me). Today, I draw my strength from it, as I know he lives on inside me and I am happy to have got the time I had with him.

I had read somewhere that when clothes are being washed, they are going through the rough and tumble. They are tossed, spun, drowned in soap suds and water and tossed about again. Then they emerge better than before.Life's troubles are like that. When you go through it, it seems like hell. But when it stops, you realise why it happened and you see what you have gained.

A good friend of mine battled cancer. During the most testing period of her life (when she did not know whether she would live to tell the tale) she reached out to all her friends scattered all over the globe, to write something on a piece of paper  for her. She wanted to bind it all in a book, to pass it on to her daughter as a precious  heirloom. Somehow a page wasn't enough for me and I made a whole hand-made book for her and filled it with writings of love and hope. She treasured it. It made me realise that what one truly values, when it is time for us to leave the world, is the tokens of love from those who mean something to us. All that matters is the love you have got.

Whatever you are going through, if it is a hard time, remember, it shall pass. The Ferris wheel of life does take its turns. Some of us are up right now and others are at the bottom. But the wheel will turn and those at the bottom would go up and then come down again. The cycle will continue until it is time to get off permanently.

Life is indeed unpredictable. But what is in our hands is to live each day to the fullest.
Connect with people who you love. Let go of the differences.
Laugh a lot.
Do what your heart tells you.
Reach out.
Forget what happened in the past. (It is gone forever)
But you can make a change at this very moment.
Spend time with those who matter.

Stop what you are doing right now and pause. Go to the widow and look at the world outside.
We are so insignificant in the larger picture.
Your presence or absence makes no difference except to your closest ones. Even then, after a while, they forget too.

Life goes on.
So LIVE IT today.
May  happiness and contentment be yours for today.

Comments

  1. thanks a lot for posting this.

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  2. You know I totally agree to your idea but somehow, life always leaves me puzzled. I fail to recognize whether I am at the top or bottom. I may be even in the middle but its difficult to predict if I am going down or coming up.

    Loved your thoughts in this post.

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  3. True and very wise, but human failing is that its difficult to think so when life is hitting you. Relatively small things, which affect disproportionately, one can overcome. But the big blows ??? Tough. But still, Live it everyday is sound advice indeed.

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  4. love what you write Preeti :D

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  5. Its so true! this was my shortest trip to bangalore but am feeling so happy because i really spent it to my heart's content just being with my parents, sister and granny. (Usually 'm running here and there visiting a hazaar relations)

    Love the ferris wheel analogy. Great post, Preeti!

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  6. Beautiful words Preeti...Loved the post, totally :)

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  7. it is indeed a hard to gulp -rock strong, hard fact about life. yes. so often we muse over the lifes laws that we experience.

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  8. No words to thank you preeti....Much needed words for me at this moment of my life.I am feeling very good now.Now i know why people like u so much.Thank u.

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  9. "Your presence or absence makes no difference except to your closest ones. Even then, after a while, they forget too.

    Life goes on."

    When we are going thru those tough time perspective is what we need.

    Beautiful post Preeti!!!! Thought-provoking...every sentence in it. Thank U!!!!

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  10. Thanks for this enlightening post preety!!

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  11. :) :) your words generate positivity in me....but i don't know for how long I can hold it in me..

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  12. Thanks Preeti. I very much needed a dose like this today. Perfect timing!

    Thanks.

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  13. Thanks Preeti. Somehow you always write a post, when I am desperately looking for answers, as if to answer my questions.

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  14. an inspiring post!

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  15. Thanks preeti.nice post........

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  16. Fantastic :)

    Really inspiring :)

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  17. Very well said...

    i appreciate

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  18. Thank you Preeti.
    You say what a lot of us leave unsaid.

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  19. Thanks a ton! This is exactly what I needed to hear right now! It is so difficult to let go of the past somehow! :( But thanks again!

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  20. Life :) no one has understood it and no one will.. if we could we would be GOD...

    plus whats the fun in having life all GOOD.. its the ups and downs that make it worth living ..

    Bikram's

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  21. Totally loved this post Preeti:) and you posted it at a time when I was in desperate need for it.

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  22. Awesome!! Love your post. Keep writing! :}

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  23. Well said. Loved the cloth-washing reference.

    My heart goes out to your friend. Cancer survivors are some of the strongest people out there.

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  24. A lovely post Priti. totally agree with you. It can give you unexpected hard blows. and unless you are tough, a fighter, it'll be difficult to put it behind and move on. and out it behind and move on we must.

    Yes, we must LIVE today , lest the moments are lost and gone forever :)

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  25. Loved it...and esp. this one - "Your presence or absence makes no difference except to your closest ones. Even then, after a while, they forget too.

    Life goes on."

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  26. Hi Sister, what u have said is real.yes we can't predict what life gives us. for me i have read a right article at the right time.i feel good,now. yes i agree with ur sayings.
    LIFE GOES ON.SO LIVE IT TODAY.

    Thanks for such a post, sister.

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  27. I wont say that I have not know such thoughts about laws of life. We all know the principles of life and how to live it to the fullest, but how many do we really see following it?? I guess none!! however, you are one of those persons who does it no doubt! Your metaphors and comparisons like clothes and wheel was really good.. makes my day when I get to see a new post from you on my mail id!

    Please keep writing Preeti!

    Abhi

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  28. Beautiful post! Hats off!

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