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10 day challenge.Post 3, Eight fears

This is a part of the 10 day challenge which I started here


Post 3 is Eight fears.

To be very honest, there is very little I fear. I have been thinking and thinking what exactly is it that I fear? I thought hard and failed to come up with eight fears. I truly do not have them.

Earlier, I was afraid of losing my parents. But now I have lost one and I have coped, even though it has been incredibly hard. (He meant the world to me). In retrospect,  I can see that his passing away has given me the greatest gift--my writing. I'd have never written, had he not passed away (I had started writing to cope with the mind-numbing grief which seemed to never end) and I'd have never become a published author and reached out to thousands  who write to me telling me how much my words move them, inspire them. I was afraid. But I had to face my fears and how well it has all turned out! Touch wood!

After a while, my biggest fear was losing my closest friendships, but that has happened too. People who meant the world to me have walked away from my life, mainly for their own selfish reasons. I had done everything I could to keep the relationship/friendship going. I was hurt, upset, shattered. Yet, I faced it. I have realised that relationships, much like clutter, need to be cleared once in a way, so that richer, better , deeper, stronger and truer people can enter your life. That too has happened with me. So the once-cherished- and- held-dear-friendships, coming to an end has indeed worked out for the better. There are better and truer people in my life today.It is filled with so much true love, so much genuine care and happiness. I feel thankful for it.


 Death is something I have never been afraid of. If I were to die today, I'd still be content because, to be honest, I have been incredibly fortunate that all my dreams have indeed come true. I am so much at peace with myself. I have everything that I could possibly want, truly!  Of course, I  LOVE life and I believe in living each day fully and completely and expressing to my dearest ones my unconditional love. But I do not fear death. I might be different from most people here--but this is the real me! :-)


Many people are afraid of heights, of darkness, of drowning. But I am not afraid of any of these either! Some people are afraid of public speaking. But I am not afraid of that too! (have won prizes at University and State levels for Public speaking. Used to be a part of college teams)

Perhaps the ONLY thing I can think of which I fear, which I am really afraid of, is snakes. They freak me out completely. I am an animal lover and I love nature and all creatures. But Snakes truly scare me. I hate looking at them and in a zoo or an animal sanctuary I will not even go to the part they are housed. I hate seeing them on screen too. (Yet, I have made a painting of a snake in one of my abstract paintings).

 Forbes magazine has a really nice article about most common fears and why we fear them. Click here to read it.

I think most fears are just because we are so afraid of the worst. Our minds have a way of exaggerating the consequences. I am sure if I try, I can overcome my fear of snakes. But the question here is whether I want to put enough effort into achieving that. I'd rather read or write another book!
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Tomorrow's post:  Seven Wants. (oooh la la!) ;-)

Comments

  1. Wowie this one is really nice..more than fearing snakes,I hate snakes..all reptiles rather..
    I'm really enjoying this challenge..tomorrow happens to be a bit busy day for me and so i have already drafted tomorrow's post :D

    Thank u so much that u come up with so innovative n exciting ideas :)

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  2. No fears--nice. I think I will have a long list on this one

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  3. You have very limited fears indeed....i am scared of snakes too....actually even lizards....in fact, they irritate me more that scaring....
    Death of close ones is something i dread most....
    Losing a close friend had happened a couple of times to me.....and it doesnt scare me nowadays.....lol

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  4. And now you've inspired me to let go of my fears ... :D
    huggs

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  5. Snakes - I don't have a problem with them as I grew up with them. We had a lot of them in our backyard. But mostly the harmless ones. :)
    But toads - Man! they scare me to my very core.

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  6. I could easily list out 5, if not 8 fears...frogs, lizards and rats top the list :P

    Kudos to you! Lol.
    Ooh, 7 wants is gonna be interesting!

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  7. Sucheta: :-) Heh heh..I am not afraid of lizards, rats or frogs :)

    Karthick: heh heh..I am not scared of toads.

    Eve: let go! :)

    Vidya: yeah, i guess one is scared only till the thing one fears worst happens!

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  8. Horizon: Wonder why people are afraid of many things!

    Aish: As awlays my pleasure!

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  9. for me its lightening
    really freaks me out :P
    loved your views on death :)

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  10. Anonymous11:41 AM

    My worst fear would be loosing the loved ones...Friends are very very imp and the fear of loosing them evolved into this post - http://zradar.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/stay-in-touch/

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  11. Anonymous5:40 PM

    I wrote about my 8 fears. Let me know whether you agree or not http://debosmita.wordpress.com/2011/06/28/ten-day-you-challenge-post-3-eight-fears/

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