Wednesday, June 28, 2017

5 ways to deal with negative people in your life.



On my facebook author page,  about a couple of hours back, I asked what you would like me to write about. I had said that I would pick one topic I liked, and that I would blog about it today.
There were more than a hundred suggestions, in this short span of time.

 The one I liked most was this request by Aatmanika Ram.




Aatmanika wanted to know how we can deal with negative people who are family or close friends.

Now, when you say negative people, I am presuming you are referring to people who drain you out, who put you down and who make you feel lousy about yourself. After they leave you feel awful.
Am I right?

We ALL have such people in their lives. Sometimes it is not possible to ignore them as you are living with them!

Here are five things you can do:

1. Examine the source: Mostly negativity comes from jealousy. I have someone in my life (whom I cannot avoid) who leaves me feeling drained. When I thought about the things that this person said, I realised it was stemming from deep jealousy. At that moment, I got good insight into  their motive--why they were like that. It didn't stop them from making the same barbs and negative comments, but it sure helped me understand where the rot was stemming from.

2. It's not about you , its about them: Often the only way they can make themselves feel better is if they put you down. The most successful people are the ones who build up the others. They are secure in their place in the sun, and they will happily spread smiles and sunshine. But there will always be the gloom-creators. They don't feel good about themselves and you become a target of their negativity.

3. Give yourself a protection shield: Remind yourself about all the good things about you. Give yourself an extra boost of confidence. Use this as as your 'shield' against the negativity. Maintain a gratitude journal where you list all the things that are going well for you. There will always be thorns in life. We need to focus on the flowers.

4. Reward yourself: Reward yourself for putting up with them! Go read a lovely book, watch something that makes you feel good, phone a friend, get a foot rub/ back massage, play with your pet if you are lucky to have one. Reward yourself with something that gives you joy.

5. Praise their positives: I am sure you can find one good quality about even the most negative person in your life. Find that quality and praise them for it. Watch them beam. They probably don't get appreciated and they probably lack love too.


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Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Stages of a relationship. (explained in comics) by Preeti Shenoy




I made this comic just now. Click on image to enlarge.
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All the women reading this..Please comment below if it strikes a chord :)
The men reading this--yes, you are welcome to comment too:)

Wednesday, June 07, 2017

Hello June! A new post with latest updates from my end.

 Hey there! Hello :)


How have you been and what is new?

If you read this blog regularly, apologies for the delay in updates. I began a new photo challenge in May. I did complete the challenge on Instagram.  But I found it very tedious to constantly cross-post the same picture here as well. Hence I stopped and dropped off the radar here. I hope you forgive me for that :)  If you wish to see the pictures I posted every day, they are all there on my Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/preeti.shenoy/
I also post stories there regularly. Most days, I also post a good morning photo. So join in me on Instagram, to stay connected :)

I have been working hard on my new novel. It will be out later this year, probably in September or October. I am very excited about it and so lost in the world I created, at the moment.

I wanted to share some nice news from my end. I wrote for Dainik Bhaskar for their edit page a few weeks back, and my article was published in 63 editions across 13 states, including the latest Surat Hindi edition and also Surat Gujarati edition which has been published for the last 13 years.




 I felt wonderful about this. It is always a writer's dream to be widely read, and to reach a wide cross-section of the world's 2nd largest population is no mean feat! I got many messages (in Hindi!) telling my how much they loved the article.
Thank you for that!
धन्यवाद !
 This month Conde Nast India has published my poetry! It was a paid assignment. But what made it extra special is that it's a commissioned piece. (which means I wrote it specially for them, as they wrote to me and said they LOVED my poetry and wanted me to write for them)




Conde Nast is an International publisher with offices in  New York, London and many other  countries like Australia, Germany, France, China, Hungary, Italy, Japan , Korea, portugal, South Africa, Spain etc (to name a few). So you can imagine my delight.

For the month of June, I hope to be posting twice a week.
Doable I think!

Tell me news from your end in my comment box. What's new? What's exciting?
Love
Preeti
ps: See my new blog header? I designed it myself.