Often, especially in today's world of 'Instant- communication', we tend to lose an important thing called 'slowing down'. We are impatient and our smart phones and Internet are, I must say, big culprits in this being contributors in this regard.
We expect instant replies when we message someone, especially if there is that option which tells you when the message was seen and read. If they do not get back instantly, there is that slight feeling of 'rejection' that seeps in.
I know of people who obsessively check out 'last seen at..' on whatsapp, when the person fails to get back, within the expected time of response.
Many a time, people are so busy that they not only do not pick up your calls, but even neglect to return missed calls, unless of course it is 'work related'.
People agree to meet and then cancel at the last minute, because 'something urgent and unavoidable' came up at work--never mind that your friend, who had juggled many things to come and see you, was left dangling.
I call all the above 'technology assault'.
If you feel you are a victim of technology assault, here are five things that you can do:
1. Take a 'technology fast': Go off the phone and Internet for two hours each day. No facebook, no twitter, no blog, heck not even google. You will be amazed how you feel and what you do instead in those two hours. (try it and tell me)
2.. Get out of your office early. (and no, the office will not collapse without you). Go to a beach. Or a Fort. Or a mountain. Anywhere really. Be still for a while and watch the sunset. (Do it)
Most evenings I walk. Today, just as I stepped outside, this was the site that greeted me.
I stood for a full five minutes, gazing at the colours, marveling at the beauty, feeling so blessed to be able to enjoy it.
3. Divert your mind: If you are still obsessing over a set of friends who haven't got back to you and you keep looking at their 'last seen at' then it is time to divert your mind. Go read a book that has you spell bound. (Read mine!)
4.Find people who have time for you: If you are constantly let down by your 'friends', it is time to widen your circle.Go join a dance class--or a cooking class or a bar-tender's course or a wine-appreciation course---anything really, which you have some interest in. You will meet like-minded folks and even if you don't, you will have a great time.
5.Reward your body by exercise: Go for a walk. Find a park or a walking track in your neighbourhood. Go and walk for 20 minutes. Walk briskly. Do not be lost in your thoughts but observe the people who have come there. Especially the older people. Think about what their life was like, when they were younger. Do they look happy now? Resigned? Content?
Whatever you do, do not be a passive victim of this 'technology assault'.
Fight back! Go LIVE your life--and it does not consist of checking out your friends activities on Facebook! Go get some real fun, real action and have real meetings with real people.
Else before you realise it, your life would have sped you by---while you were checking out tweets and 'last seen at' on your phone.
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