Monday, July 29, 2013

Are you a vicitim of technological assaut? Five ways to fight back.

Often, especially in today's world of 'Instant- communication', we tend to lose an important thing called 'slowing down'. We are impatient and our smart phones and Internet are, I must say, big culprits in this being contributors in this regard.

We expect instant replies when we message someone, especially if there is that option which tells you when the message was seen and read. If they do not get back instantly, there is that slight feeling of 'rejection' that seeps in.

I know of people who obsessively check out 'last seen at..' on whatsapp, when the person fails to get back, within the expected time of response.

Many a time, people are so busy that they not only do not pick up your calls, but even neglect to return missed calls, unless of course it is 'work related'.

People agree to meet and then cancel at the last minute, because 'something urgent and unavoidable' came up at work--never mind that your friend, who had juggled many things to come and see you, was left dangling.

I call all the above 'technology assault'.

If you feel you are a victim of technology assault, here are five things that you can do:

1. Take a 'technology fast': Go off the phone and Internet for two hours each day. No facebook, no twitter, no blog, heck not even google. You will be amazed how you feel and what you do instead in those two hours. (try it and tell me)

2.. Get out of your office early. (and no, the office will not collapse without you). Go to a beach. Or a Fort. Or a mountain. Anywhere really. Be still for a while and watch the sunset. (Do it)

Most evenings I walk. Today, just as I stepped outside, this was the site that greeted me.
I stood for a full five minutes, gazing at the colours, marveling at the beauty, feeling so blessed to be able to enjoy it.

3. Divert your mind: If you are still obsessing over a set of friends  who haven't got back to you and you keep looking at their 'last seen at'  then it is time to divert your mind. Go read a book that has you spell bound. (Read mine!)

4.Find people who have time for you: If you are constantly let down by your 'friends', it is time to widen your circle.Go join a dance class--or a cooking class  or a bar-tender's course or a wine-appreciation course---anything really, which you have some interest in. You will meet like-minded folks and even if you don't, you will have a great time.

5.Reward your body by exercise: Go for a walk. Find a park or a walking track in your neighbourhood. Go and walk for 20 minutes. Walk briskly. Do not be lost in your thoughts but observe the people who have come there. Especially the older people. Think about what their life was like, when they were younger. Do they look happy now? Resigned? Content?

Whatever you do, do not be a passive victim of this 'technology assault'.

Fight back! Go LIVE your life--and it does not consist of checking out your friends activities on Facebook! Go get some real fun, real action and have real meetings with real people.

Else before you realise it, your life would have sped you by---while you were checking out tweets and 'last seen at' on your phone.

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Thursday, July 25, 2013

On how I write what I write.

And so I look at the blog this morning, and realise it has been calling out to me. In fact, it had been calling out to me even last week, but I managed to muffle it's cries with a pillow so that they couldn't be heard. It managed to shake off the pillow now, and has emerged like a zombie, from the dead, speaking in that gravelly whisper saying "UPDATE.....UPDATE...It has been thirteen whole days you know..THIRTEEN". (Gasp!)

And as though that scary visual was not enough to push me into updating this space, kind readers have been writing in asking "When Preeti--when do I get to read something new written by you?"

Awww---how lovely to be loved this much! How can I not oblige with a new post now? :)

So here I am.

Today I thought I would blog about something that I get asked all the time. I get people asking me how I think of stuff that happens in my books, and whether I know exactly what is going to happen and whether I have a certain story in mind, and what is my method of working, and whether I directly work on the laptop, or if I use a pen and paper. (I use pen and paper only to outline, and then use only the laptop.)

I know a lot of writers make up stuff as they go along. For me, my writing is always planned. I will know exactly what is going to happen in a particular chapter. I write down a detailed outline. Then, as I start the chapter, the story takes a life of its own. The characters come alive. After that, they do not listen to me anymore. It is amazing when that happens. I can actually see the scene unfolding before my very eyes, and all I have to do is quickly capture it, which I try to do as my hands fly on the keyboard.

I have no idea where it all comes from. When I write a story, it just flows. Lines like the following get woven in.

People tell me they can relate.
People tell me I have given a voice to what they feel.

For that gift I am always grateful.


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Thursday, July 11, 2013

last post of blog marathon 2013! (post 30)

So finally--here is the day! I touch the finish line today :)

I started this 30 days back--and there has been a post every single day. Hooray :)

For today's post I thought I would write about 'labels' that define us--labels we use--labels others use.

In the corporate culture, we find that people are defined by their designations..VP..CEO, Director. In the armed forces, we have ranks-- Lt.colonel, Major etc.

 If you aren't in the corporate world, you would probably define yourself by what you do..Graphic designer, Wedding photographer, Librarian etc.

How important are these labels to you?   Is your identity defined by these labels? How do you define yourself? Does others perception of you, change who you really are? If not, why does it affect you? What if someone gave you a label, which you are not happy about? Would you correct them? Would you speak up and say 'hey..This is not how I would like to be known as.. I would like to be known as __________'

I leave you to think.

And do share with me the answers to  the above, if you  feel like it.
I am listening :)

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Wednesday, July 10, 2013

5 major deal breakers in friendships (post 29)

Much has been said about the warmth of friendship and the comfort a good one brings. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.
 However, friendships do break, despite your best intentions to be 'forever friends'.

If you are anything like me, I am guessing you would take your friendships seriously.  I do and am fortunate to be blessed with some fantastic friends. But, I have of course, had my share of friendships breaking--sometimes because of bad choices I made or sometimes, because some things are a complete NO-NO for me, when it comes to friendships. They are the deal-breakers.

Here are my list of deal-breakers (in the order of importance for me)

1.Fair weather friend: If a friend speaks to you, only for 'good times' and isn't there for you, when you are down, and need a shoulder to cry on, then he/she is obviously a fair-weather friend. Dump them, You deserve better.

2.Put-you down friend:  Then there is that friend, who plays down all your successes/ achievements. When you share something wonderful that happened to you, they say stuff like 'Oh that's nothing..There is this person I know who.....' and they go on to dazzle you with the brilliance of what this person did. If this happens more than five times with a 'friend' then it is time to move on.

3.I-will-keep-in-touch-only-when-i-have-something-to-say friend : There are some people who remain super-busy and unreachable all the time, that you want to speak to them. Then out of the blue, when they have something to tell you, they call you up to rant/share. You listen to them patiently and then when you want to speak to them about something in your life, they become unreachable and busy again. Not worth holding on to such a friend.

4. The selfish friend: This is a combination of 1, 2 and 3. Awful! Dump!

5.I will-not-share-my-stuff-but-you-share-yours-and-I-will-listen friend: There is this breed of 'friends' who are 'information gatherers'.This especially happens if the friendship is 'professional turned personal'. They want your friendship, as they want to know what is going on in your lives, as it may affect them professionally. This kind of friend is very good at eliciting information out of you. You don't even realise you have told them a lot of stuff. Then, when you ask them about their life, they clamp up and change the topic. They keep their cards completely closed, while you have opened all yours and made yourself vulnerable. Personally I detest people who make me feel vulnerable and powerless. I would run the other way from such a friend.

A friend is supposed to make you feel good. A friend is non-judgmental, supportive of the choices you make. A friend values you, values your time and values the relationship you share. A friend may admonish you, but it would be free of malice, and trust me, you would know the difference between someone who genuinely cares and someone who is just saying stuff in 'guise of a friend' to bring you down.

The more I think about it, the more convinced I am that life would be simpler and easier, if you get rid of these 'friends' who aren't helping you grow, who are there only to take from you and give nothing in return.

The mobile company sure got it wrong when they said 'har ek friend zaroori hota hai'.

What are the friendship deal-breakers for you?
If you care to share, I am listening. I would love to know.


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Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Tweet tweet (Post 28)

Since many of you who read me here are not on twitter, I thought I would compile a list of all the interesting stuff that i tweeted over the last few days, for today's post.

Here are the tweets that I sent out or retweeted which struck a chord in me.

And finally this one:
:) My twitter handle @preetishenoy
 Good night folks--until tomorrow :)
And yes, keep those comments coming--else I feel i am talking to a wall! ____________________________________________________________________________________________
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Monday, July 08, 2013

All in a day's work. post 27

Most of you must now be aware that Amazon has started in India. I don't remember if I mentioned that on the day that it opened in India, my book (Life is what you make it) was on Number one spot.

Today I checked the Amazon Indian writing best seller list. The best-seller lists are updated every hour on Amazon, based on actual purchases and it is an automated list.Out of the thousands of books published, it lists the top 100 best-selling books in the country.

Guess what i discovered?

ALL the books I have written so far, are in this list of top 100!

Boy, was I overjoyed!

Here is the order of appearance:

Life is what you make it (Number 4 on the list)

The Secret Wish list (No.28)

34 bubblegums and candies (No.39)

Tea for two and a piece of cake (no.93)

I also got two totally contrasting perspectives today. One reader wrote to tell me that she hated 'life is what you make it'. It left her depressed and she was unable to complete the book. Another wrote to me telling me that he was on the verge of suicide and the book saved his life because it gave him hope.

One reader  wrote saying that 34 bubblegums and candies is a book for 10 year olds  and was an utter waste of money and another reader wrote saying that 34 bubblegums and candies was the most refreshing  book she has ever read, it cheered her up, made her feel life was worth living after all and left a sweet after-taste in her mouth.

Yet another reader (someone who has done her Ph.d) had this to say about 'The secret wish list'

"I must congratulate you once again, for your work portrays positive images of women despite the hardships, conflicts that they go through. Your portrayal of adolescence and young adulthood as a life stage is admirable. How a simple folly committed in youth changes the person's life entirely is something you have dealt in depth. You have somehow also sent a message to parents discreetly about the repercussions of their actions which can have a deep impact on the individual's psyche. Sorry, I can go on and on about your book, but you must be hard pressed for time."

For me, what really counts is whether my writings manage to make an emotional connect with the reader. If the reader could feel everything that the protagonist underwent, I would consider it a great compliment. It is an honour to get your mails and even though I get hundreds, the joy is still the same.

I take a while to reply (about 20-30 days on an average) as I have a huge back-log of mails. As much as I would like to reply promptly, it just cannot be done, as then I would have to make an alternate career as a e-mail writer , instead of writing books.

If you want to interact with me, and are in a hurry to get my response, the fastest way would be twitter (@preetishenoy is my twitter handle). The next best way to get a quick reply is Facebook wall of my author page. 
The third best way would be an e-mail. (Mail me on ps(at)preetishenoy(dot)com. The worst way  to try and reach me is by phone! I never pick up unknown numbers and I also talk on the phone only to my mom :)  (Because I need huge chunks of time to write undisturbed, and I find telephones a huge intrusion when I am writing)

I got a threat also today. Someone tweeted to me saying I do not reply to his tweets at all, and unless I replied immediately he would 'black-list' me and I would lose a fan :)

Can you guess whether I replied or not? :)

Leave me your guess in the comment box, and I shall update this post tomorrow with my answer.

Sigh--all in a day's work. 

Addendum: Update --as promised about that threatening tweet:

No I did NOT reply! :) I don't respond to threats. Had it been a  polite request, i would have apologised and said I must have over-looked and would have replied.
 Of course I ignored it. I don't like rude demands.

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Sunday, July 07, 2013

Belly. (sunday scribblings) Post 26

Thought I would do a Sunday Scribblings post for today and the prompt at Sunday scribblings is 'Belly'.

The word belly conjures up  mainly three  images in my mind..
Pot-belly, Belly-laugh and Belly-dancing

Of all of the above, the one I like most is of course a belly-laugh. A deep, rumbling belly laugh that spreads all over your body till you are shaking helplessly in laughter. Sometimes you laugh so much that your belly hurts. I laugh a lot and I laugh often. I feel blessed to be able to do that. I can laugh at any damn thing, including myself. (okay--most of the time) :) People who know me well, sometimes call me up, just because they know I will make them laugh.

And the one I  dislike most from all the above is a pot-belly.

And the way most Indians are, I would not be surprised if the pot-belly is a secret turn-on, for most of our people. The closet sex-symbol :) (How else do you  explain the burgeoning, ever-growing population in our country? You have a pot-belly? By Ganesha Jove, I find you sexy.. Come to bed :) )

As regards Belly-dancing, I first witnessed it in Egypt and I was mesmerized
If you have never heard of it, or never seen it, do watch this video.

I think it takes tremendous talent to do this.

 Now if only I could say honestly what Amanda Seyfried said (famously)
"I have belly-fat like evrybody else, and I don't want to be airbrushed on the cover of a magazine."

And till i can do that, I shall work towards this

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Saturday, July 06, 2013

Pictures speak louder than words (post 25)

 Two pictures, both clicked by my son (who is 15).

I think he has a good eye---even if I may say so myself. Don't you think?

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Friday, July 05, 2013

The unwanted guests (post 24)

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

                     -- Jelaluddin Rumi,
                          translation by Coleman Barks

When I first came across the above poem, I was astounded at the depth in these words. For the first time I understood the meaning of the hindi phrase गागर  में सागर भर दिया .

I would have never looked at sorrow that way--that it was clearing me out for something better.
Yet, the more I look back and reflect on my life, the more I realise it is true.

While we go through the pain, what we are doing is pushing the limits of endurance. We are raising the bar that much higher, becoming stronger, without our realising it.

Madhuri and I were chatting over whatsapp today, and she and I both agreed that whatever happens in our lives is a part of 'a grand plan'. Of course, there is free-will in your life. That is in your hands. But there is only so much that you can control. You just cannot control everything in your life--no matter how much you plan, no matter how much you take care of things.

The sooner one accepts this, and the sooner one welcomes even the seemingly 'unwanted guests'--- like meanness towards you from someone you never excepted it from, rejection, unkindness, betrayal, jealousy, pettiness---the easier it becomes to let go.

Let go.
It is indeed for the better, though it doesn't seem so right now.
Just do the best that you can under the present situation---and things have a way of working themselves out.
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Thursday, July 04, 2013

8 rules to simplify relationships (post 23)


Sometime back, someone had given me a tag of a 'relationship expert'. This person felt that I am extremely understanding, kind and compassionate by nature. I guess I am all of that--but of course, what you see on the blog of my personality, is just one-dimensional! I am extremely restless by nature, get bored by routines and I want to try new things each time, and most of all I detest rules. If there is a rule, you can be sure I would want to break it.

However, there are some rules that I have always followed, or tried to follow. They have stood me in good stead and saved me many relationships. (I am blessed to have tonnes of good friends who love me a lot)

 Here are eight rules (that I follow) to simplify relationships:

1. When you are wrong, apologise humbly: Be gracious in accepting your mistake. It is okay. You are human. You are allowed to err. Say that you goofed up and mean it. Ask the person o forgive you. You will be surprised, how far this simple act can go. (Don't be like Sandeep from The Secret Wish list)

2.Tell them you love them and miss them: Most people presume that the other person ought to know that they are loved. This is especially so, if it has been a relationship of many years. I still feel it is so important to tell the person you love them. (Text if you are shy!) I know it doesn't come naturally to many people, and many are shy of actually expressing it. But the words 'I love you' are powerful. I use them often, and I mean it when I use them. (Akash of tea for two and a piece of cake did the same too though it took him a while to learn)

3.Look at things from their perspective, not yours: You might think that something which you strongly believe in, is the only right way to do a certain thing. It is rarely so. Often, we are so convinced about our 'right-ness' that we refuse to even see the logic or rationale in an opinion vastly different from ours. (Diksha's parents from The secret wish list could have vastly benefited from this one!) Put yourself in the other person's shoes--you will then know exactly where it pinched.

4.When you are hurt, don't blurt: When I was younger (say in my twenties) one of the biggest mistakes I used to make was blurt out things in anger. I have improved a lot since then. (I now stew and blurt out after many days heh heh). Words said in anger can really wound. Take a deep breath and bite your tongue. Let the words stay in your head. Write them down and wait for a few days, and then see if you feel the same way. If you still feel as strongly, by all means, express it. But when you are hurt, do not immediately blurt.

5.Look at it as if it were your last day: Think of this scene..You are on your death-bed. You have a few more hours to live. Will this pettiness matter then? No? Then why should it matter now? By not letting go, you are adding to an emotional burden you already carry. Free yourself. Lighten your load.Let go!

6.Make the effort: If a good friend has got busy with their lives, make an effort to drop a simple mail, or steal a quick chat on the phone. Often if no effort is made from both sides, chasm slowly widens. I have, without realising , lost a few friendships this way. Now if a relationship matters to me, I will go the extra mile and get in touch with the person, even if I haven't heard from them for ages.

7.Accept that things change : Sometimes people change. Things change. Situations change. Just because someone meant the world to you, at a particular point in your life, it may not be the same today. Everyone undergoes multiple experiences, as we go through life, and all of it changes us as people. Accept it. Do not fight change. it is a part and parcel of life.

8.Know when to call it quits: And finally, know when to walk away from a situation. if something isn't working out for you, try all of the above. Try your best. If the situation is still making you feel down and drained, if it is doing nothing to nurture your soul, if all that it is giving you is pain, respect yourself enough to walk away.

These are my rules, and I have mostly followed them.
leave me a comment if you like this piece and would like to see more such, in the future, and I shall consider writing them for you :)

Until tomorrow..Ciao and much love!

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Wednesday, July 03, 2013

An awesome afternoon. (post 22)

Today, I met  the gorgeous Madhuri Banerjee at a lovely cafe in Bangalore. We had a fabulous time together and had so much fun. I don't remember laughing this much, in the last few weeks! She and I talked non-stop, and we had so much to share. We talked about books (mostly), writing process, men, phones, fitness and a whole lot of other things.

 Madhuri is truly one of the warmest and nicest people I know. She is also very down to earth, unassuming and a total riot to be around :-)  I also follow her on twitter and some of the stuff she tweets go straight to the heart.

Later, we went and checked out some clothes, did some girlie things, and generally relaxed and unwound. We discussed so many things--the conversation was buzzing, flying and zooming in all directions, it was hard to keep track of the multiple threads we were conversing on.

I had read Madhuri's 'Mistakes like love and sex' and I told her that the sex scenes in the book were sizzling! She has done a splendid job on them. We talked about how it is really hard to write a good sex scene, without making it sound like porn, and without ever referring to genitalia. I was telling her about how the reader has to experience every single emotion that the protagonist feels, and therein lies the strength of the book--and she agreed.

I got her to sign her book for me and I shall always treasure what she wrote:

They say that sometimes you never know the real value of a moment till it becomes a memory.

Today, the moments we spent, have indeed gone into the 'treasured memories' section straight away.

Here's to both our books, and here is to more such wonderful times Madhuri!
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Tuesday, July 02, 2013

100 random questions (post 21)

I was browsing through the Internet, and I found these 100 random questions
Decided to do it for today's post.

Here goes:

    Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 18, and find line 4.
Karnataka has an impressive range of KSRTC buses. :D
Stretch your left arm out as far as you can, What can you touch?
Edge of the bed

    Before you started this survey, what were you doing?
Whatsapping :)

    What is the last thing you watched on TV?

OMG--it has been so long I watched TV that I don't remember.

    Without looking, guess what time it is
    Now look at the clock. What is the actual time?

    With the exception of the computer, what can you hear?
Sound of rain

    When did you last step outside? What were you doing
This morning. Was meeting some people.

    Did you dream last night?

    Do you remember your dreams?

yes--most of the time.

    When did you last laugh?


    Do you remember why / at what?
At something my kids said.

    What is on the walls of the room you are in?

Paintings by Niall Young.
 Seen anything weird lately?
No--unless Bangalore's potholes on the road count as weird.
What do you think of this quiz?
Surprised it is making me think.
What is the last film you saw?
 If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
Norwich UK.
 If you became a multi-millionaire overnight, what would you buy?
A lovely home facing the beach.
Tell me something about you that most people don't know.
I have about 6 academic degrees and diplomas (of course, I am proud of it)  and I actually feel bored to tell people  all my educational qualifications . I tell only when i get to know the person really well. It's like a privilege reserved for a specail few :) Don't ask me why--It's just one of my quirks. I am shy that way.

    If you could change one thing about the world, regardless of guilt or politics, what would you do?
Make it safe for women to go anywhere they like, wearing whatever they want, at any time they please and not get harassed, raped, abused or called names.
Do you like to dance?
Love I stop dancing would be the day i stop living.

    Would you ever consider living abroad?
Have lived abroad for a while.

    Does your name make any interesting anagrams?
ee trip.

    Who made the last incoming call on your phone?
My good friend Priya.
What is the last thing you downloaded onto your computer?
A workout plan :)
Last time you swam in a pool?
Three weeks back
Type of music you like most?'
Stuff like Goo Goo dolls and Mumford and sons
Type of music you dislike most?
Mindless meaningless lyrics like chipka le saiya fevicol se..YUCK

    Are you listening to music right now?
No--Unless chirping of birds count as music
What color is your bedroom carpet?
I don't have a carpet in my bedroom
If you could change something about your home, without worry about expense or mess, what would you do?
nothing! I love how I have done up my home!
What was the last thing you bought?
ha ha..Pav and noodles :P :)
Have you ever ridden on a motorbike?
Oh yes :)

    Would you go bungee jumping or sky diving?
Bungee jumping..
 Do you have a garden?
A lovely one.
Do you really know all the words to your national anthem?
100 percent

    What is the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning?
who has messaged me--who has tweeted to me :D
 If you could eat lunch with one famous person, who would it be?
Maddona or Demi moore
Who sent the last text message you received?
Ravi Subramanian (author of best sellers like Bankster and If God was a banker)
Which store would you choose to max out your credit card?
Debenhams UK
What time is bed time?
anytime the lines start blurring on the book I am reading.
 Have you ever been in a beauty pageant?
Yes :) In college and I won :)
 How many tattoos do you have?
If you don't have any, have you ever thought of getting one?
Never. Hate them.
What did you do for your last birthday?
Went out with family.
Do you carry a donor card?

Who was the last person you ate dinner with?
Satish and kids.
Is the glass half empty or half full?
Depends on whether it has water in it or Vodka ;-)
What's the farthest-away place you've been?
Farthest from where? In reality or in dreams? :) My imagination takes me everywhere.
 When's the last time you ate a homegrown tomato?
May be eight years back.

    Have you ever won a trophy?

    Are you a good cook?

yes--a fantastic one :)

    Do you know how to pump your own gas?
Excuse me? :D

    If you could meet any one person (from history or currently alive), who would it be?
Emperor Akbar :) Or Prithviraaj Chauhan.

Have you ever had to wear a uniform to school?
Of course. 12 years of my life :)
  Do you touch-type?
Well --60 percent
What's under your bed?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
No. It's sexual attraction maybe but definitely not love. Real test of true love is time. And I believe in love.
Think fast, what do you like right now?
A nice conversation. Instead I am doing this questionnaire.
 Where were you on Valentine's day?
In Kochi, doing a book launch!
 What time do you get up?
Between 6.00  and 6.15 AM most days.
What was the name of your first pet?
Too painful to talk about it.

    Who is the second to last person to call you?

Ab poora call history loge kya? :) Second last person to call me was my Bank relationship manager and he called me by mistake :)

    Is there anything going on this weekend?

Nothing planned.

    How are you feeling right now?
Not too good, to be honest.

    What do you think about the most?
My next book!

    If you had a Big Win in the Lottery, how long would you wait to tell people?

I wouldn't tell! I don't see how it is relevant to them or why they should know.

    Who would you tell first?
Of course, Satish.

Do you sing in the shower?
I have music in my shower. So  I don't sing but i listen to music.
What do you do most when you are bored?
I am never bored. There's always so much to do.
 What do you do for a living?
I write books.
 Do you love your job?
Totally, fully , completely.
 What did you want to be when you grew up?
A corporate hot-shot
If you could have any job, what would you want to do/be?
My current job or a fitness instructor.
Which came first the chicken or the egg?
How does it matter as long as you get your Omlette or friend chicken? :-).
 How many keys on your key ring?
Where would you retire to?
Some place tranquil and serene.
What kind of car do you drive?
A chauffeur driven one ;)
What are your best physical features?
My eyes  and smile is what I have been told
What are your best characteristics?
Straightforward, sincere, passionate, honest,  always keep my word,  am usually fun to have around.
If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation where would you go?
Sao Paulo, Brazil

 What kind of books do you like to read?

All kinds. Of late, I am  leaning towards spirituality and esoteric stuff.

    What is your favorite time of the day?
Around 10.00 am or so, when I am alone.

    Where did you grow up?
In different parts of India, including Chennai.

    How far away from your birthplace do you live now?

About 600 kms.

    What are you reading now?

Am reading four books! One of them is Sudha Murthy's Dollar Bahu. Another interesting one is by Sonia Choquette.

    Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Night owl.

    Can you touch your nose with your tongue?
yes :)

    Can you close your eyes and raise your eyebrows?

yes :)
    Do you have pets?

    How many rings before you answer the phone?
Sometimes I don't bother to answer :P The only excpetion is if my mom is calling.

    What is your best childhood memory?

Running with my dad on the beach.

    What are some of the different jobs that you have had in your life?

Art-teacher, work-shop trainer, Ground-staff at an airline, Volunteer to under-privileged children, pre-school teacher, Placement Executive.

    Any new and exciting things that you would like to share?
My new book is done!! A few months more before it hits the stands :)

    What is most important in life?
A loving family and peace of mind.

    What Inspires You?

My father , Great physiques (healthy bodies),  Nature, My children (yes, they do inspire me with their zest for life) and also my dog! (Not kidding. There is such a lot you can learn from a dog but I will save that for another post)
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Monday, July 01, 2013

You are loved (post 20)

A little while ago, I was speaking to a good friend. I was telling her about how the older I get, the more convinced I am about 'destinies and life path.'
I was telling her, that when things happen, we always do not know the reason instantly. But a reason there is. Always.

When a situation is giving us pain, it is because we are looking at it too closely and we are in the midst of it. If we step aside, outside it for a moment, and try and look at it from a distance, you might see a clearer picture. It may not lessen the pain, but it sure gives you a more philosophical perspective.

If we are hurting because of something, we need to heal first. Emotional wounds are just like bruises. Except that they are internal and you cannot see them. Just as you would apply medication to an external bruise, and be careful about that area, till it heals, so too with emotional wounds.

If you have been hurt by something (or someone) and are in pain, you need to do stuff which is a balm to your soul, and your spirit. You need to take time off to nurture yourself and heal.

You need to surround yourself with people who make you feel loved or things that bring you peace. One of the best ways to do this is to do something exclusively for yourself.

Treat yourself to that one thing that gives you joy. Be it shopping, be it reading a lovely book, be it taking an afternoon off and doing nothing except lazing around.

Do it. Indulge yourself.

You are important and you are loved.

ps:  Leave me a comment, if you found this perspective useful and could connect with it. I want to know if it resonated, or if it was OHT :) (overhead transmission).

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