Monday, January 17, 2011

How a book got written

 Writer hugs loved woman friend Pictures, Images and Photos

Sometime back, when we were living in the U.K, a very good friend, who also happens to be a single mother to two lovely children, visited us. Her ex-husband (with whom she is on very friendly terms) is an Artist and a very accomplished one at that.Over glasses of wine, soft music and a lovely hot dinner, conversation turned to art,creativity and other related things.

"Creative people, be they artists or writers should never be allowed to marry or have children.They are so hard to live with!" exclaimed my friend with all gusto and complete sincerity. My friend has the highest regards for artists/writers and she does appreciate and admire them a lot. She is also a great book-lover and a delightful conversationalist. She also has a lot of artists as friends because of the nature of her work.(She works as a life model).  Satish (my husband--somehow I hate the word 'husband'.He is more my friend and confidante) chuckled and completely agreed with her. They went on to discuss the eccentricities  and oddities of creative people in general. I squirmed a bit inwardly, amused, tickled and at the same time slightly bewildered. By Jove, they were right! Whatever traits my friend described of her ex-husband were the very that were present in me! Satish and she had a hearty nudge-nudge-giggle-guffaw insiders laugh and I joined in too.

Later, I wondered how much of it would be supported by scientific evidence. Was it really true that creative people are difficult to live with and difficult to have as a close friend or have a close relationship with? Dr.Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi an eminent psychologist, and an author of many books and more than 120 scientific papers, has written a superb analysis about the ten paradoxes of creative people. (click on coloured words to read it). When i read it, i found myself identifying with nearly all the traits mentioned there. Perhaps those who know me well will agree.

Many a time I find that I simply have to paint that picture. If I don't, it goes round and round in my head and bothers me. If my family interrupts me at that time (I will not answer the phone if I am painting or making a portrait, so friends cannot disturb me) I get quite annoyed and I snap at them. If I am thinking deeply about something (most often it is about the character in my book) I absent-mindedly answer 'uh-uh' to whatever my family asks. By now, my children know me so well, that if it is important, my daughter will nudge my arm and say "Mummy, did you really hear me or are you simply doing uh-uh? " (yeah, she is a sharp little thing.)

The last three months, I have been living inside my new book completely.(and oh it is so hard! You really feel each character's emotions as you live their life) Today, I finally okayed the final layout, before it goes into print. I heaved a sigh of relief, but  at the same time I feel so emotionally drained.

It has taken me about two years to write this book. I have poured my heart and soul into it. My family has been so supportive, as have been my closest friends. They have listened to me complain, discuss, rant, vent, pour out emotions, be a general wreck and they have done it so sweetly and smilingly. I have picked up fights with them, (yes, even with my closest friends), argued , brain stormed, deliberated,trashed out and talked. They have all been really rock-solid and so sincere and understanding.(I feel fortunate to have them)

My biggest strength  and biggest fans have perhaps been my children. Today I told my son "Next month, mummy's SECOND book will be in  all the book-stores in India, can you believe it?"
"Wow Mummy." he replied. "I am so proud of you." And he gave me a big hug.

It was all that I wanted to hear.

This post is specially to thank those people who have totally stood by me in the writing and creation of this book. They know how difficult a journey it has been for me. I would not be exaggerating if I say that the book would never have got written without them.

Words truly do not suffice to express what I feel (maybe I should paint a picture) but I simply have to say :
A big hug and a thank you to

He has put up with my countless moods and irritated out-bursts. On top of that comforted me too! :P :)

He hates even being mentioned but I simply have to. He was the one who read each chapter as soon as it was written and who would keep asking "When are you writing the next one? What is the progress?" Sometimes, just because he asked I'd push myself and write even when it was really hard and I felt like giving up.
 
She is one sharp and intelligent woman and works as an HR consultant. She is one of my closest friends and I am so glad to have her in my life. She was so honest with her feedback and she helped a lot in early drafts.

When I was in U.K and whenever the phone rang, it would usually be Mayank. He has called me up countless times (and still continues to call me). Whenever he called, I would take a break from my writing and would pick up the toys and make beds an do the general cleaning of the house as I talked with him on the phone. On the days that Mayank called, the house would be sparkling clean!

Dr.Anubhav Naresh deserves all the credit for a superb cover that my book will sport. (It got finalised today and I will soon post a picture here.) He is a multi-talented person who is into many things including running adventure camps, soft-skill workshops apart from being a Dentist. Click here to get the links to all his sites.

And the final thanks of course is to YOU, even the silent readers and subscribers, apart from the ones who regularly comment. It is your words that truly propelled the first book and it is your encouragement that goaded me on, to write my second.

Thank you so much!
_________________________________________________________________
And for those of you who cannot wait to know the title, the title of the book is

Life is what you make it.
         ---a story of  love,hope and how determination can overcome even destiny

More details soon (including a chance to win signed copies of the book) :-)

Watch this space  or 'like' this page.

 _____________________________________________________________

37 comments:

  1. HEy.. congratulations for sending it to print .. best of luck for the launch.. and do agree with the behaviour of creative person upto certain extent based few recent observations with people around me..

    ReplyDelete
  2. Been waiting all day for your post. I love the way you connect different people you meet in life to your personal experience!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Hearty congrats...cant wait for the d-day! I love that title - very catchy & promising!
    Read the 10 paradoxes of creative people - a surprising mix of opposites indeed! But I definitely cant believe that this sweet charming persona of preeti that is seen in the pic & posts can also behave like a wreck, fight, argue, etc etc....!! ;) :)

    ReplyDelete
  4. Congratulations and All the Best for everything!!

    Wishing you success and smiles!

    ReplyDelete
  5. Two thumbs up to you, preeti!, what is amazing is the way you balance a family and your multiskills. way to go, lady! awaiting the book at stores near home.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Congrats and Best of luck for the second book. It seems that many people involves in the process of writing a book and the best thing is getting appreciation from our loved once.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Life is what you make it! How true! All the very best and loads of luck for the second book. I'll miss the book launch but will surely get that signature on my book :)

    And ya.. Looking forward to the contest :)

    ReplyDelete
  8. Varun: Oh--i will miss you at the launch! When are you back to india? And hey--thanks :)

    Piyush: Oh yes.Loved ones and their words do matter a lot.

    Asha: thank you so very much! BTW you are in bangalore right? Where do you live?

    Life begins:Thanks so much.

    SK: Oh yes..I can be such a pain and a nuisance (well sometimes) :P Ask my friends :P :)And yes, the pradoxes made an interesting read, didn't they?

    Priya: thanks! How lovely to know someone actually waited for my post!These people I mention in this post are my closest friends.

    Mihir: Thanks a lot

    ReplyDelete
  9. wow....I am so waiting for your second book!! And Great going Preeti!! I got into reading blogs after a couple of weeks and I see this post first!! Way to go!!
    -Durga

    ReplyDelete
  10. Life is what you make of it...Brilliant title abs loved it :-)

    ReplyDelete
  11. :D
    congratulations!
    I want a signed copy! Please come to delhi? *puppy face*

    yay, i cannot imagine how relieved yet bereaved you must be! Best wishes for ALL your creative endeavours :)

    ReplyDelete
  12. Super post Preeti. The last line caught my attention!!! I have to win a signed copy :)

    The title of the book is great - Life is what you make it. Only if all of us understood that soon enough.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Congratulations Preeti! I will look out for your book when I come to India this summer
    btw...love the title...so true! :)

    ReplyDelete
  14. Sheila: Sure thing:) thanks:)

    Palsworld: Thanks :)

    Sucheta :) Ur delhi gives importance only to politicians..not to chota-mota authors like me :D

    Prats: Thanks a lot :)

    Durga:Thanks so much! :)

    ReplyDelete
  15. congrats on your second book! Writing a book does take away so much of your energy!

    ReplyDelete
  16. congratulations for the completion of your second book. Seems to be a catchy title.. Sounds interesting.. will wait for it launching or will try to win signed copies too ;)
    Anyways nice to see how nicely you are balancing life :)
    All the best for your second book .

    ReplyDelete
  17. I'll be coming back on 15th of March!

    ReplyDelete
  18. Hey Preety,

    I am following your blog form 2 months & i am really happy to have come across your blog.I am regularly loooking for your posts.
    I liked your posts on Parenting,mama moments.
    I want to read you book 32 bubblegum & candies had ordered one will read it soon.
    Best of luck for your new book.

    Thanks
    Lux

    ReplyDelete
  19. Congrats preeti for completing the second book. I am eagerly waiting for it to hit the stand.
    Best Wishes,

    -Inderjit

    ReplyDelete
  20. Oh I LOVE THE TITLE!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  21. Oops - did not finish the comment :)

    Kudos to everyone....and I can't wait to read the book. I hope it's out before I head back to US in 3 weeks! or else, I need to win a signed copy ;)

    ReplyDelete
  22. Life is what you make of it - what a fantastic title ! I feel so happy and Proud that your second book is going to be out soon ! Way to Go ! Cant wait to lay my hands on the book :-)
    And I so agree on the 10 points about creative people !

    ReplyDelete
  23. waiting for ur book.. :) :)

    ReplyDelete
  24. No, I live in secunderabad, but have lived in bangalore.

    ReplyDelete
  25. I have been waiting for your second book. I am sure I would enjoy reading it just like your debut. It was really nice of you to think of so many people who helped you to bring out your book, especially your family.

    I am waiting to see your book on the stores...

    Congratulations and all the best!

    ReplyDelete
  26. Hey...Congrats on the second book...waiting for it to hit the book stores... :)

    ReplyDelete
  27. Hey...Congrats on the second book...waiting for it to hit the book stores... :)

    ReplyDelete
  28. Oh Preeti, so proud of you!! You did it, AGAIN! :)

    I will email you to answer your question about the journal. I'll still do a post on it for you though!

    I LOVE the title of the book. I want all the information when it is published so I can let my readers know where to buy a copy.


    Keep inspiring me woman, as you have for so long. You make me want to go out and do great things with my own life!!!
    xoxxo
    Love Gill

    ReplyDelete
  29. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  30. Hi Preeti,

    Congrats...All the very best!!! waiting to get hold of your book..

    Marina

    ReplyDelete
  31. Good luck with your second book preeti !! Loved "34 bubblegums & candies"

    ReplyDelete
  32. Congrats Preethi !! Title is really promising !! Cant wait to get a copy :) !

    ReplyDelete
  33. Congrats preethi. I love your book title "Life is what you make it". So true and so right.

    ReplyDelete
  34. Love the title of your book, when is it being released ??

    ReplyDelete
  35. I have said it countless times and I'll say it again everytime I visit ur page I'm inspired:-)

    Wishing U all the very best!!!!!!

    p.s: Lovely header

    ReplyDelete
  36. Congratulations! Eagerly awaiting 'Life is what you make it'. Nice post and yeah creative people can be difficult at times to live with but its their creativity and uniqueness about them that makes them so much fun to be with, same goes for you, its a pleasure reading your blog :)

    ReplyDelete

Thanks for stopping by. I really appreciate your leaving a comment! Okay--I appreciate your leaving a comment if you have something nice to say ;-)