There are several rules that society imposes on Indian women (and men too.). Some of these rules are so accepted, that nobody questions them. It is how we were raised. It is a part of our culture. It is just how we are.
I have always been a person who questions things. Even as a child, I was constantly questioning why things had to be the way they are. My mother, a strict disciplinarian would not encourage it, and there was no way out, other than just obeying whatever rules she laid down. In retrospect, it helped instill a sense of discipline in me.
In contrast, with my father, I could question everything. There was nothing which was taboo or forbidden. At the age of nine or perhaps ten, encouraged by my father, I had read books like 'I'm OK, you're OK' by Thomas A Harris, and we would discuss things and analyse our conversation in terms discussed in the book. (transactional analysis)
My father did not believe in following anything blindly. He encouraged me to thin…
It was on this day twelve years ago that my father passed away. There was no warning, no illness, no ailments--nothing. He was alive one moment, chatting and talking to my mother. He had walked 5 kms , his usual distance, that morning. He had meetings lined up for next day. He was to visit me in Pune, a week later. Instead he leaned back in his chair, while watching TV, closed his eyes and died.
The death changed my perception about everything. It altered forever the way I looked at life. It affected all parts of my being--my health, my daily routine, my philosophy, my core belief system. My father was my strength and my rock. I used to talk to him every day. My day was not complete, unless I had a discussion with him on the phone. He had a curious mind, and we used to talk about everything in the universe. When he died, a part of me died with him.
I had started this blog In October 2006, forty five days after his death. I did not think about what I was doing or how long I would …
What is the most important thing, a writer must do, in order to be successful? I am often asked this.
'being successful' itself can be defined in several ways. If you are an
aspiring writer, I would consider the first step of success as
completing a manuscript. If you have managed to sit down and have
completed writing a book, you are successful, whether you have managed to find a publisher or not. You have successfully crossed the first step.
The other question I am usually asked is about my art. One of the things I do, in between my writing is my art. I am asked questions like how it helps my writing, and whether a writer should have other forms of creative expression, other than writing.
I don't think a writer truly needs to have any other form of creative expression, if they are not inclined! If you are passionate about writing and you have no other creative pursuits, that is perfectly okay. To say that one must have other creative pursuits apart from writing…