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Contradictory I know, but it's true.

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I am a mushy gushy person.
Tell me you love me and I will fall for it.
I fall for even the corniest lines. I melt easily.
Shower me with praise and tell me I am great and I would be all yours.
But despite that, I can smell insincerity a mile away and am never easily fooled.
Contradictory, I know, but it is true.

If I love you, I’d probably write you a hand-written note.
Or if I love you a LOT, then I’d probably make a book for you which I’d write out entirely by hand.
I’d hug you tight and kiss you  and say  lots of love to you (and mean it too).
I am expressive that way. I’d probably paint a picture too.
Maybe I’d smother you,  but I’d know when you need your space too.
Contradictory I know, but it’s true.

And if you did not respond back to me, I’d probably feel really hurt,
But you’d be sure to know, the ones I love always do.
I’d  just say it, consequences be damned.
I’d try to reach out again and again.
But if I still came up against a wall, I’d retreat into a shell and it would be difficult to draw me out.
Contradictory, I know, but it’s true.

Life is too short to not express what you truly believe in.
I believe wholeheartedly that if one were to die today, one should have no regrets.
If I truly cared for you, I’d be brutally honest too.
My honesty might singe and burn and sting. But it would sincerely be what I felt.
You do not get pretence with me. Yet I consider myself sensitive.
Contradictory I know, but it’s true.

I know I have a hundred faults.
And if you pointed them out, I’d be more than willing to accept them too.
But I don’t know if I’d be willing to change.
I might not argue with you and I might choose to keep quiet.
I’d hate you for not accepting me the way I am but I’d still love you to death.
Contradictory I know, but it’s true.

The one person,  who would vouch that all of the above is  indeed true is Satish. Today (17th March) is the day we first met sixteen years ago.  It has been SIXTEEN years (I cannot believe it) of knowing him.(and we got  married less than forty days of meeting each other :) We celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary on 27th April)

He has seen me at my worst. He has seen me at my best. It hasn’t been all mush and gush. We have worked hard at our relationship. We have changed along the years, become different people from what we were, when we first met—yet, we have grown WITH each other.(and I cannot imagine life without him. He means the world to me)
What I truly love about him, is that he accepts me with all my faults. I am a very difficult person to deal with. On my blog, you  really see only the best of me, the bits I choose to show-case.

He has seen the worst of me and he still loves me.

And that I believe truly makes all the difference, in any relationship.

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  1. O lovely :)
    i liked the contradictions a lot...and they surely are true when a person is honest :)

    congrats for lovely 16 years..wishing u many more!!

  2. Such a love filled post :)

    I am feeling all mushy now... its been 4 years since I met Bhupesh and I know there are so many of my flaws which he doesn't look at... but just chooses to love the best in me.

    Love is wonderful ! Happy Anniversary again...

  3. Loved it! :)
    You two are truly, madly deeply in love! Hope that it remains this way forever :)

  4. Hey, Today is my parents 25th wedding anniversary.. a special day to both of us.. Many congratulations to you.. Happy 16th anniversary in advance..

    Take Care

  5. Anonymous6:32 PM

    So true... knowing the worst yet accepting the person and loving whole heartedly is so vital to relationships...
    Lovely post Preethi. Advance wishes for your 16th anniversary :)

  6. very nicely written...the contradictions in you would have made linda goodman vouch that you are a 100% true saggi!!!
    You two deserve each other.
    Congrats...and wishing you many more lovely years ahead! :))

  7. I absolutely loved the poem.
    Arent you two a swell couple !
    Congratulations on completing 16 years. Here is to many many many more years of togetherness and love.

  8. Super poem! And may congratulations on 16 years of togetherness! Wouldn't life be much simpler if each of us chose to just look at the best in the people we love and ignore the worst?


  9. Lovely poem :)
    Congratulations to both of you..and here's wishing for many more happy years together!

  10. Congratualtions for your book and great reviews book is getting. poem is really nice and sorry for not replying to your comments check out the link i have mentioned the reason for not replying.

  11. Anonymous10:37 PM

    wah! what a post... loved it preeti di :) Here's to your 16 years and the ones to come...

  12. Lovely poem Preeti. It is not easy to meet a person who loves you with all your fault. All the best wishes to you and Satish.

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  14. Venkat said...
    I feel like to say somehting here, but dont know what to say. there is a saying, 'behind every sucessful men there is a women'. it is indeed 'behind all sucessful womens there is a men'. infact when i read your 500th blog i realized this.

  15. Congratulations and wish you both a great life ahead.

    God Bless you BOTH!


  16. Congratulations! May you have many many more years of happiness together!

  17. Very nice post. Great to see you both , very nice people in your own rights, being so very nicer together. Wonderful.

  18. Congrats and god bless with many more years of togetherness, love and happiness.

  19. Beautiful Poem totally relate to it esp the 3rd para....& the 4th para...actually the whole poem:-)

    Heres to many, many more anniversaries:-))!!!!!!

  20. Aww! So cute...reading the poem made me melt :) :)
    Hearty congratulations Preeti...wishing you many,many more anniversaries like this :)

  21. Love that grows as years roll by, is so special and divine! :) the better half or not im not sure, but definitely become one half of the whole! Wishing you many more lovely years of togetherness!

  22. Ahhhh Lovely poem :)
    My first visit to ur space... never knew that you had two books published....
    well need to figure out :))

  23. Satish and you are lucky, as are Julian and I.
    Preeti we are lucky to have found such devoted blokes to spend our lives with! That to me is true love; a love that still loves once they've seen us at our worst.

    Happy anniversary to you both, may you enjoy many more countless years together in happiness!

  24. Gillian: yes indeed we're lucky. Touch wood! Hope you come to India soon! xoxo :)

    Chakoli:welcome aboard :)

    Vaidegi:Thanks so much :)

    Nandana: Really? :-) Thanks :)

    Reflections: same pinch :)


    Ramesh: Thanks so much!

  25. Caterpillar:Thank U :)

    Abhi:Thanks a lot! :)

    Venkat:Thanks so much. yes indeed I do have very supportive friends.


    sbonlifensuch: thanks!! :)

    Gagandeep:Thanks and good luck with your job!

  26. Sucheta:Thanks m'am! :)

    Palsworld: Thanks a lot. Yes indeed it would be but its so hard!

    Ruch:Thanks so very much!

    SK: Dunno about Linda, satish will say it is true! :)) Thanks :)

    softypink:Thanks so much

    Shanthu: happy anniv to your parents too!

    Akanksha: Amen! :)

    Aathira: Thanks :))) A big smile at your feeling mushy :)

    Janes Ire:Thanks a lot!

    Life begins:Thanks a ton :)

    Jyoti Ajay: Thanks :)

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  28. Congrats to you both for 16 years of memorable time spent together . May you have many many more such lovely , happy , ,memorable,Cherish'able' times together :)

  29. Liked ur post...
    "total acceptance" is the ultimate way to deal...


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