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From the heart


Hi there,
How are you all doing? I got back yesterday (see previous post) and this is a picture I clicked in kerala at my mom's house.Somehow it seemed apt for what I'm going to tell you.

This is a note from the heart. A heartfelt, deep and a sincere thanks to all those who cared enough to leave comments on whatever I wrote. A big thank you, to all those who wrote such encouraging words. A big thank you to all of you, who continue to read what I have to say.

You have no idea how much your words have helped me .When I first started this blog (click here to read my first post) I had no idea what to expect. Many people , whom I thought were good friends, suddenly became very busy when I called to tell about my loss. Maybe they had no idea what to say. Till then, I had always been the laughter generator, the life of the party, the clown, the bubbly, enthusiastic, jovial, ever smiling, ever ready fun person. Suddenly I wanted to share something a bit more deep. I was hurting, I wanted to talk—and to my total shock, many turned away.

I realized then, that I had indeed been naïve to consider them friends. I was just amusement for them—and till such time I was witty, clever and smart they wanted to be with me. But they couldn’t handle my sorrow (perhaps it was too deep).

In desperation, I turned to blogging. Looking back, it was one of the best things to have happened. I met so many genuine people who have gone on to become good friends in real life. The encouragement and comments I received from all of you helped me tremendously. It did not lessen the pain—but it made me realize that I was not alone and there were many like me. It helped me understand better. All of you helped me reach out.

Thanks for caring. Thanks for sharing and above all, a big thank you for being there.
I shall visit your blogs soon.
With love
Ps

Comments

  1. Well,,,good to c u r back with the update:-)
    Well,blogging came as a solution to many things in my life too...earlier, i never thought i'll make friends here..but today,things seem to be different.There are many people around in the blogosphere who i can label as friends, including you:-) And words from friends do make a difference in times of trouble.There is no need of such a huge thank you that you gave...afterall we all care for u and consider u as a friend..so no thanksyous in frndship,right? >:D<
    Take care

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  2. Oh, how sweet :)
    I am happy to be a part of this and happy that something in our paths made us meet. I'm sending you a big hug.
    Beautiful picture too!

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  3. It's a pleaseure to visit here so really, no thanks required :)

    I am feeling that loss that you describe at the moment, as you know. I still can't believe what has happened. Thanks for your kind comments. This has hit me harder than I expected.

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  4. Welcome back. I deserve only a part of your "thank you a note" :) I didn't know you when you were dealing with your loss... I don't even know what you loss is. I only hope that you are getting over it now.

    Take care. Keep posting nice pics from the vacation..

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  5. well you didnt even need to title this one "from the heart".. the writing is such..
    no comments on usefulness of blogging.. we all know everything.. :P happy blogging!
    cheers!

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  6. A very heartfelt post Ps.Touched me. I could idenitfy with you when you spoke about mates who would prefer you be the listerner and they forever the talker when it comes to sorrow. *Hugz*

    Sides, On a celebration Note!!

    WElccccccome BACK!! And good to have ya back!!

    *HUGGIZ* I love this post!

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  7. I feel the same way about blogging too. And isn't it just amazing the kind of people who we meet in the virtual world?

    I am glad you are back and am waiting for your post real soon!

    Vidya

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  8. WB PS and that is a BEAUUUTIFUL pic! LOVE IT. Hope ur mum is keeping well.


    **Till then, I had always been the laughter generator, the life of the party, the clown, the bubbly, enthusiastic, jovial, ever smiling, ever ready fun person

    OMG U R SOOO LIKE ME. :)


    I love reading ur posts cos u TEACH me new things...I LEARN alot from ur posts PS. SO THANKS TO U TOO n HUGGGGGGGZ!


    funny how we both wrote very similar posts ha...:)

    Keshi.

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  9. Welcome back!

    I'm glad to have found your blog and find inspiration from your writings.

    And how apt for me to read this because old friends who have been absent for almost a year called me up to invite me to party with them..saying it wouldn't be the same without me. I'm a giggle generator for them..my stories amuse as well..and yes..just like you when it ocmes to deeper conversation i feel like they find it uncomfortable to listen to me...

    I've even stopped talking to friends here about my blog....they think it's nothing but a silly fixation..( that's how I feel they think...)

    N'ways..nice to read you again..

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  10. Anonymous12:56 PM

    WoW...thats a beautifully captured shot and your writing is just wonderful...!

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  11. Anonymous1:02 PM

    Hi PS,

    Nice to know you had lovely time in Kerala. I have lived in Kerala for a year in 1992. A t Kochi... I have fond memories. Most of all, as a die hard foodie, I liked Payasam, Puttu with Liver masala, Crabs, Acchappam, Applam, Appam...
    Facinating place, facinating people...
    And yes, we all in the blog world are always there, to support and comfort. Cheers!

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  12. welcome back...has been checking to see when u r getting back...hows ur mother?...hows kerala? did u get drenched in the rain?

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  13. Phewwwwwwww.......finally i got here!!!
    Preetii.......u really touch my heart....ur blogs r so full of emotions n i wait to read ur blogs.
    Those who turn their back.....were never ur friends!! dont worry...im here for u....ALWAYS!!!

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  14. u know preethiakka,
    last yr in march when things were difficult for me ur father sent me an sms saying "this will pass too" it had so much strength..i can still hear that tone of his voice in my mind.
    N these days, again i find myself lookin back on those words n gaining strength thru them..

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  15. ...and the journey continues.My blog is today one year old and I too endorse all the things you say about sending your thoughts out into 'cyberland'..had you not done so I would never have got to know you or all the other wonderful folk i've had the pleasure of getting to know. I am all in favour of destroying barriers, of coming together and celebrating the things we have in common, and the things that make us unique!..This is what these Blogs enable us to do...the World now seems so much bigger, but oh so much smaller. (eh?...hope you know what I mean?)

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  16. Ahh, you're home. You were missed.
    Here, pull up a seat, put your feet up. Let's chat.
    I'll make the chai. You just get cosy there with the cat and we'll solve the problems of the world.
    xo
    Blue

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  17. First posts always make an interesting read.

    Well yeh, life sure is busy.. or rather, people are busy.

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  18. Happy to see you back and I think you are just fabulous, so come along and pick up your Totally Fabulous Award

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  19. Akanksha: Sometimes one HAS to express the thanks!

    DM: :-) Am smiling a big smile now.

    Bob-kat:Hugs.Words are empty and cannot heal what you must be feeling right now.

    Twisted DNA:Thanks! U can read "my special friend" on the right side of my blog under 'posts of note' which explains my loss.

    Lady Luxie:same here!

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  20. Ankit: Same to you pal!

    Gillian/Blue: loved that writers island thing and LOVED your latest post.I'm so glad I discovered you!!

    J:How come they arent busy when you have something amusing to share?

    Marja;I just did!Thank you!!

    Niall:I agree 100%..Cannot believe that i'll be meeting you soon.

    Keshi:Dont know what you learn--but thanks!!

    Tysonice:Blogrolled you!!

    Kulpreet:I too lived in Kochi in 92!

    Mom is doing great.She knows many of you as I keep telling her about my blog friends.She said to convey her regards.

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  21. Vidya: It sure is.And its always a treat to meet them in real life.Blogging is just one part of their personality.Dont you agree?

    Sweetsticky/Amy: Yes--and to me it was a shock.I couldnt believe i was so naive as to not have known!

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  22. Kalyan: Thank you!

    Pai:I NOW know that--at that time I didnt! Thanks for being there.

    Diya:You know dad used to always say that to me "This too shall pass" and I too repeat these words many a time.He was so inspiring wasnt he?

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  23. Well PS... nothing to say here except Thank u too...

    Ritu

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  24. Lovely post . You are so right about blogging !! I think it is a new way of living

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  25. U know P, even i started blogging for that precise reason as well. I was stressed up and dint know how to vent the pent up emotions. A friend suggested that i should start writing, that was a year back. I agree, it de-stresses.

    Also, thank u P, for being there. Take care and God bless u :)

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  26. Hi Preeti, Very very touching post. I remember very well the emotions of going back home the first time after I lost dad.The feelings were of anger, sadness, emptiness, hollowness, heaviness all rolled into one!! I thought my heart could never take it!!!! But You know what little by little you learn to see the other side of the tragedy- the gift of having had them for so many years in your life..... the gift of their time with you on earth!!!
    Until that day I will walk a while with you!!!! :)
    Hope your mom is doing ok. hugs,
    Babiakka

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