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What can one say about friendship that hasn’t been said before?

Sociology defines it as a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behaviour between two or more social entities operating on values of trust, that one shall not harm the other, and involving affection, knowledge and esteem.

From a psychoanalytic point of view, friendship is one of the bonds that arise from sexual impulses, when their attainment of a directly sexual goal is inhibited. However, this is a process of inhibition rather than sublimation. This approach to a sexual satisfaction that is never consummated forms the basis for especially strong and enduring ties between people.

A hindi-english text message I received, amused me no end. It said “Friendship is like susu in the chaddi. (pee in your pants) Everyone can see it, but only you can feel the warmth.” :-)

Whatever you call it, all of us need friends. In this modern day living, friends are the new family.
As children, friendship is so uninhibited. If you have observed a group of children playing,what will strike you is that they are so honest. If they don’t like something that the other does, either they tell it so frankly, or if they are very annoyed, push the other down and get into a good fist fight. The two who have fought, of course cannot stay without each other and are looking for an excuse to make-up.
One looks at the other, and says “Ok.Will you be my friend?”
The other says “Only if you say sorry”
“Ok. Sorry”
“Ok. I’m your friend”

Fight forgotten, happily they run out and start playing again. No malice, no egos. We adults have a lot to learn from children.

I often tell my children that they are lucky to have such good friends. My 5 year old daughter was running a fever yesterday and I kept her indoors, after a dose of paracetamol. She was very upset that she could not join her gang of friends. She was sulking, bored and beginning to get annoyed with me.

Suddenly ,around 7:30 p.m the doorbell rang and when we opened it, there were all her friends(and her brother too) and each of them had made a ‘get well soon’ card for her! These kids had sacrificed their precious play time to sit and make cards for my daughter. She was happy, elated, overjoyed, touched . I simply had to click a picture.

Life does not reward you such moments everyday.


Look carefully and you will see the pile of cards in her hand.Her brother is right at the back trying to make horns with his hand for the child in front of him :-)

Comments

  1. Life is a monotonous affair without friends.
    Cute pic,but I couldnt see your sons face :(:(.
    Do you believe in Feng shui?

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  2. very cute children...if u ask me, there can be no definition of any relation...friendships are understood and felt by each other...it cannot be put into words...the only thing that comes to my mind at the utterance of friendship is...life is nothing without friends as this is one of the most unconditional relation we humans make on this earth for a better survival :)

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  3. Awww, how sweet. She looks so happy with her cards :-)

    Friends are so important. It is a shame that modern life can get in the way sonmetimes. I always make time for my friends.

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  4. Oh this so SO sweet, it made me cry! How lovely are those kids, ha? Just wonderful!
    See, this is why I awarded you ;) Great post!

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  5. very sweet... purvi looks too cute... mmmah... also wood touch :)

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  6. I don't think that text message was accurate because I used to have a lot of friends until I started peeing my pants. Then they all left.

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  7. That is so sweet her friends and brother did that for her! I don't know what I would do without my friends--be very sad and lonely, I guess. Loved the "pee in your pants" reference!

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  8. Deepak:Have responded to you by mail.please check and revert ASAP!

    Robert Swayze:Thank you!Wish you had left a mail id!

    Bob-Kat:Me, too.Always.

    Devil-mood:Thank you.Again!!

    Diya:Whole forest!Touch wood.touch wood.

    Mr.Fab:they left because you didnt let them feel the warmth.You only felt it yourself. LOL

    Katherine:Really sweet of those kids.I was so surprised,just like her.

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  9. Aw so cute :)
    Except your son appears to be a devil, or possibly amazingly fertile depending on what kind of horns he is doing.

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  10. "Friendship is like susu in the chaddi."

    well...not the way I would describe it but yea..it means the same...
    however if you put it in this context, remember, you gotta change your pants later..friends are technically supposed to be together till the end.

    cute kiddies.
    poor brother..just like me..getting blurred.

    your daughter looks a lot like you. I know thats a stupid sentence, but I am just saying it nonetheless.

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  11. Anonymous6:00 PM

    Olá,

    É uma grande verdade... Nós precisamos dos amigos, pois eles estão sempre perto de nós, quer nos momentos tristes quer nos momentos alegres... Eles estão lá...

    Visita-me em:
    http://sementinha-da-vida.blogspot.com/

    Mil beijinhos
    Haras

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  12. What a sweet and wonderful thing for her friends to do.

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  13. friends make a huge difference in your life. If you have a good friend whose shoulder you can lean on for support and cry on occassionally it makes life so much better and lifts a huge burden off your shoulders. Life becomes worth living. Thank god I have a great friend in you.

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  14. Ah!..now all Purvi's friends have probably contracted the virus too!...Friendship is afterall about sharing!

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  15. Hey I stumbled upron your blog by chace, and this post just made my day!!! Such a kodak moment for your daughter, am sure she'll cherish it when she grows up :)

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