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I want to get on that train.

100 Years From Now

One hundred years from now
It will not matter
What kind of car I drove,
What kind of house I lived in,
How much I had in my bank
Nor what my clothes looked like.
One hundred years from now
It will not matter
What kind of school I attended,
What kind of typewriter I used,
How large or small my church,
But the world may be ...
a little better because...
I was important in the life of a child.


The minds of children are really like clay. They can be moulded into whatever you want. You, as an adult, a role model, a care giver have infinite power, to shape them into beautiful, warm , kind, positive and sensitive human beings. Or you can fill them up with bitterness, resentment intolerance and violence.

Many a time I feel that the mindless acts of violence, terrorism and abuse goes on, simply because somebody did not spend enough time with their children—or maybe they did.But the twisted way.

Children believe adults. For them, their world is what you make it out to be.
It took me weeks to recover after watching the movie “Life is beautiful”.
I still cry when I watch it, though I blink away my tears quickly.Here is a scene from it. This is just after the little boy's father has been killed in the concentration camp.

Tag line is: An unforgettable fable that proves love, family and imagination conquer all.
Plot Outline is :A Jewish man has a wonderful romance with the help of his humour, but must use that same quality to protect his son in a Nazi death camp.

Here are quotes which capture the essence of this post.

Guido: [being shipped to a concentration camp] You've never ridden on a train, have you? They're fantastic! Everybody stands up, close together, and there are no seats!

Giosué Orefice(his son): There aren't any seats?

Guido: Seats? On a train? It's obvious you've never ridden one before! No, everybody's packed in, standing up. Look at this line to get on! Hey, we've got tickets, save room for us!
Dora: My husband and son are on that train. I want to get on that train. Did you hear me? I want to get on that train.

The words you say to a child makes a world of a difference. Literally.
That’s why parenting is so important. Even if you do not have children of your own.


  1. That's very true P... but there always comes an age when kids realize that their parents are far from perfect... when daddy's no longer superman and mommy can't make everything alright... that's the age they turn into those rebellious little brats that some of us continue to be forever... they begin to learn things for themselves and rely less on what their parents tell them.... i guess some of the impressions still remain from childhood, but kids will be okay... and at some point in time they will find themselves... of course you better be nice to your kids because you don't want them hating you once they 'find themselves'.

  2. I agree Tyler.We better be nice to our kids.Because we dont want to lose them after they find themselves.

  3. Now iam beginning to think what will happen to me after 100 years :):)

  4. Deepak :Thats easy.Children will read a chapter about Deepak Gopi, actor,director and star and how he began by the scooter documentary! I really liked that one on your blog.

  5. Hey, you are 101% right.

  6. This is very important.
    I love the poem and that film is beautiful. It's hard to watch it without crying. It's so full of messages, but you're talking about a very powerful one. It's so moving the way that father did the impossible to protect his son from that awful truth they were living in. I'm sorry my comment is so sloppy, I should take a minute to organize my thoughts :)

  7. A beautiful post and yes i do agree parenting is important, however, in this age of fast-paced life parents tend to focus more on the concept of spending quality time with kids and giving in to all their demands. Maybe a very traditional outlook, but i think mothers play a greater role in the development of a kid and she needs to be there in the formative years. But then again, our careers become all encompassing and family become our second priority. Dnt know abt others, but i think, if we have bought a life into the world, its our responsibility to give him/her the best upbringing, and even if it means at the expense of one's career.

  8. It is true Ps, Tabula Rasa we all come into the world, but our slates get filled with stories we see hear and feel.
    I am not a parent but my sister has a little girl, if I look at her I wonder how ppl can hurt them, change them, they have the potential in them, it just needs love to grow.:)

  9. very true.. kids think adults know everything n can solve all problems.. N its getting difficult coping upto it with the 21st century kids..

  10. I agree with you... I am amazed by how many people just give in to their children because it is easier, how many really messed up teens and preteens I see around here -- it's sad... They need structure and guidance, not every single thing they ask for! They need to learn to think, not to have everything done for them!

    As they get older -- they might start thinking I'm embarassing, but they still love me and hopefully respect me. And it's mutual.

    And I do feel like a secondary parent to all their friends, although it bothers me that I can't do as much as I'd like to guide them! Especially now that they are teens and are sometimes fighting with their own parents, I hope they ALL know that they can come to me (even though they might not like my suggestions!)

  11. I have not seen this film..but will seek it out.I do believe it will make difficult viewing..could any parent fail to identify with the desire and need to protect their child..?

    (at least you've let me know what happens at the end of the film !)

  12. Prashant: Thank you

    Devil mood:perfectly undertsood what you were trying to say

    Diya: Adults cannot solve all problems--but they can be much nicer t the kids

    Sue:I ABSOLUTELY agree about not giving in to everyhting.Many people do--and then wonder what monsters they created and how.

    Niall:I'm so sorry.I should have warned you that it was the ending.But I thought there would not be anybody who has NOT seen "beautiful life". It was such a 'talked about' movie.

    Etain lavena:Yes, we do have infinite potential to mould them.

    Misti:have already responded to you on orkut :-)

  13. You have no idea how many times, on the way to jail with a man I had just arrested for assaulting his wife, I heard that, as a boy, this man's father screamed at him and beat him. There it all is, Ps. You are so right.

  14. I am looking through the blur of my tears, reading that this makes you cry, too. It is all about the good in the human heart. And that always makes me cry.


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