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All for love--how love blinds us.

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Satish and I were talking this morning. The papers were full of the details of the recent murder case that has been rocking the nation. It gets murkier and murkier. There is just too much negativity for me to even dwell on it, I said. And the extent to which people can go to--heinous and unimaginable. He understood.

We spoke then---about relationships.
About egos in relationships.About our need to be loved.
Appreciated and liked for who we are.
Our need to be understood and accepted.
Human beings are social creatures. We want to connect. We want to be heard.
Most of all we want to matter.

No wonder we form the strangest of connections.We forgive those whom we love. Even if they have hurt us, trampled over us, we turn a blind eye. We are too attached--too connected. We need them in our lives like a cocaine addict needs his next fix. We imagine our lives will be meaningless without them.
Love blinds us and binds us in ways that we can never even attempt to escape. It distorts our vision and our senses.

I read the last letter of Jiah Khan that her mother released to the media. I felt sorry because it was clearly a misguided notion of what love should be.

You cannot let your happiness depend on one single person, no matter how much you love them.
You have to love yourself a little more.

It's such a funny thing this love. It takes you high but it can kill too.
But only if you allow it to take over you.

Keep it in you. Give it freely to all who come your way. Love with an open heart.

Care for others. But do take care of yourself first.

Will blog again soon.
Until then---stay happy and be grateful for the ones in your life whom you love and who love you back.
Forget the rest. They don't matter.

Love
Preeti 
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Comments

  1. That was a much needed blog! Thanks ma'am

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  2. You are right that our life is not just and should not be dependent on one single person!!!! But after all we are human beings.....and at the end of the day when we are in love our life just revolves around that person!!!! No matter how much we get hurt or happy....that person means world to us n that's what love makes us do!!!!

    I fail to understand that even if the person hurts us and if think practically we know that whatever is happening is just not right....still we forgive that one person and just forget....what only we can see is their smile....their happiness....!!!! Rest just everything becomes least important!!! We are so much in love that whatever the other person does feels like may be he's right!!!!

    I guess that's why we say that when we are love...heart always win over our mind!!!! No matter how hurted our heart is !!!!

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  4. Thanks.... it came at the right time!

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  5. Thanks for d post!! Nd lately I have understood this fact!! Keep writing nd waiting for your next book :-)

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  6. In today's age of scary obsession, free love matters of lot. This murder has shocked my senses and I am so speechless. You couldn't have said it better than that!

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  7. Loved reading it.. Infact I always do...
    I have wrote a couple of mails/comments to you but didn't get any response so was a bit disappointed..
    I understand u stay busy..
    I too write blogs, if possible for you please have a read.. You are my inspiration in writing and in life :-)

    I would be delighted, if you can share your valuable feedback on my blog, I Am The Life, http://i-am-the-life.blogspot.com/

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  8. Bang on, just like all other wise things you say :)
    I think giving free love is very difficult to achieve especially if you yourself is not happy. So like you correctly said , taking care of yourself is very important and the key towards a happier , less conflicting life!
    Came across a phrase on loyality , wanted to share :
    A woman's loyality is tested when she has nothing... A man's loyality is tested when he has everything...

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  9. Another inspiring post Preeti. Really appreciate how you take time to write about topics which play an important role in my life. When we are in love, we forget everything else, because it really blinds us. We should be careful how much we love and whom we love.

    The last few lines of your post said:

    Until then---stay happy and be grateful for the ones in your life whom you love and who love you back. Forget the rest. They don't matter.

    I have started following this principle, because I realized I lost a lot of precious time in my life when I was paying attention to people whom did not love me, compared to those who did.

    Thank you again.

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  10. Sometimes Its not only love that blinds us but commitment as well to the people who are important in our life. And truly said, we need to give time to them as well as ourselves. Came across a good quote this morning: “Sometimes you need to step outside, get some fresh air, and remind yourself of who you are, and who you want to be.”

    #Waiting #NonFiction :)

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  11. Sometimes Its not only love that blinds us but commitment as well to the people who are important in our life. And truly said, we need to give time to them as well as ourselves. Came across a good quote this morning: “Sometimes you need to step outside, get some fresh air, and remind yourself of who you are, and who you want to be.”

    #Waiting #NonFiction :)

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  12. Sometimes Its not only love that blinds us but commitment as well to the people who are important in our life. And truly said, we need to give time to them as well as ourselves. Came across a good quote this morning: “Sometimes you need to step outside, get some fresh air, and remind yourself of who you are, and who you want to be.”

    #Waiting #NonFiction :)

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  13. Preeti Madam

    I have always loved your books. Whenever i read your blog always try to connect your blog with your writing in some book. Just finished reading "Life is what you make it". Planning to read more books of yours.
    May god bestow you with more books so that you may enlighten the whole world through your immense knowledge of English language and understanding of the phenomenon called life.

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  14. nicely written. I was expecting you to express one for teachers' day. Nevertheless, I found an article sweetly written depicting the story of a daughter, father and the teacher. here is the link for the same
    https://prisonerofi.wordpress.com/2015/09/05/moments-of-yore/

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  15. Love stabs us and strokes us.But it may take always positive ways if our reciprocation is affirmative. a few lines nice expressions.

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