Sunday, October 10, 2010

News from my end

Hi there,

Is it possible to feel very happy and very sad both at the same time? I have discovered it perfectly is possible!

The  very happy news is I am relocating back to India. ( Phoren country desi dil was a post I wrote some time back. I do love my country totally ) The  sad news is I will be leaving UK. ( The saddest thing for me was that I had to give away my pet-- Sparkle. ( Yeah, I know I will get over it and I know I will be fine, but it is still hard )

A friend  asked how it is possible to feel sad and happy. It is. Moving two houses in the same city  or even moving to a different city within a country, is just not the same as moving countries. Moving from your home country to another which is a completely different world, adapting to a completely new way of life  and then making that  new country your home--well, you understand it when you have done it.(and it is not easy at all). The experience has indeed  been an eye opener in many ways.

It has been nearly two years now since I moved to the UK. A part of me has indeed accepted it as 'home'. I have some glorious memories here and Norfolk is really an outstanding place in terms of unmatched scenic beauty, miles of wonderful coastlines, old ancient cathedrals that reach out to heaven, the marvellous English countryside, the greenery, the flowers, the daffodils, the seasons, the Norfolk broads, the best library in the whole of UK, a very vibrant art community--I simply love it all.I would be lying if I say I will not miss it. Even yesterday we went to a really beautiful place called Southwold.(Pictures perhaps in another post?)


 I also now have a National level UK qualification in Portraiture, something which I could never have done in India. My Art has taken off in a huge leap in UK. I am happy I got that opportunity here and I do feel a bit sad to leave all that behind.

We will be moving back to Bangalore (yay! It is my most favourite city in India) by 16th October! I am delighted that I am moving to Bangalore. It is where my daughter was born and it is also a place where I have a LOT of friends. One of my book launches happened in Bangalore and it is a place where I feel completely at home.

After we move, we will be school-hunting, house-hunting and then setting up a home from a scratch .(as we had sold almost all of our stuff when we moved here) I am looking forward to a number of  very exciting things I can  and will do while in Bangalore. If you  are curious and really want to know  what it is,  please  see my latest portrait  by clicking  here  and read the comments  which will tell you what I am planning ;-)

And so many of you, who have written to me saying you want to meet me, let us meet! :-) But give me two months or so while I get my life and house in order.

I would surely be posting here, as soon as I can :)
Until then, wish me luck please. I need it.

Till then in the true British spirit I am going to keep calm and carry on. (but I still need all the luck)

Love and Sunshine,

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

Things you never notice .Wordless Wednesday 25

This is my entry for Wordless Wednesday

Sometimes you have to see the world through the eyes of a child and then you see things you have never seen before.

My niece Gia (need I say I totally adore her? :-)) turns four tomorrow.

Happy Birthday Gia!
For my other portraits click here .

[And yes I do commissions if you want a pencil portrait  as a unique  gift to that special someone. I work from photos  which can be e-mailed to me. I use Extra smooth Bristol Board 100% acid free, A3 size paper which is of the highest professional quality (and it will last for centuries). You can mail me (on ps at preetishenoy dot com ) for rates if you are interested.]

Monday, October 04, 2010

A time travel tag

Sunday Stealing had this really interesting Time traveller meme going. It was hard to resist :-) It was written by Emily Barton from telcommuter talk.

Sunday Stealing: The Time Traveler Meme
Emily's Rules:

1. Depending on your age, go back 10, 15, 20, or even more years.
2. Tell us how many years back you have travelled and why.
3. Pretend you have met yourself during that era, and tell us where you are.
4. You only have one "date" with this former self.
5. Answer these questions.

Okay, as we start, what year is it and how old are you?

My answer:  It is  January 1995 and I am 23 years old. I have gone back 15 years because that is indeed a good amount of time to go back in, and  it is indeed very good to ruminate over what a long way I have come.

I am in Mumbai, working at a Corporate job, really enjoying it, and have been made another  job offer  which I am considering hard. I travel by Mumbai local trains to office. I have to take a bus and then change two trains  to get to work. I am immensely enjoying my independence (and my  ahem--boy friends :P ) but still waiting for the right man to marry :-)

1. Would your younger self (YYS, from here) recognize you when you first meet?

No way. My YYS would wonder who this  smart  woman is :) And OMG, she has two children too. That too 12  and  9!Not kidding.My YYS would have never thought I'd turn out like this.

Here is a very recent photo of me with a good friend.(Picture clicked 3 days back. one of my favourite pictures)

2. Would YYS be surprised to discover what you are doing job wise?

Very. My YYS would have never thought  I'd be a published author (working now on my 3rd book!) as well as a Portraiture Artist. (Click here to see my portraits.)

3. What piece of fashion advice would you give YYS?
Please don't wear shapeless stuff. Be proud of your body.

4. What do you think YYS is most going to want to know?
Am I making the right decision by deciding to give up my corporate career?

5. How would you answer YYS's question?
It is one of the best things you have done.

6. What would probably be the best thing to tell YYS?
I would tell my YYS to memorise the following:

On Marriage
 Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

 7. What is something that you probably wouldn't tell YYS?

Heh heh heh heh. I probably wouldn't tell her  how much natural childbirth really  hurts , How hard breastfeeding really is yet how you will do it for your children,  how bringing up toddlers and having children  changes you in ways you have never imagined.

8. What do you think will most surprise YYS about you?
 YYS will be most surprised to know how much a mother really  can endure.

 9. What do you think will least surprise YYS?
That I am still in touch with some of my childhood friends.

10. At this point in your life, would YYS like to run into "you" from the future?
I think so. She would then be assured that it will all work out just fine.

I totally enjoyed doing this tag. I tag the following people:
 Suma   (i would love to hear her answers)

Nancy  (I so miss her posts)

Gillian (i love reading her)

Prashant ( he will scream blue murder for tagging him as he has decided to minimise his online time  :P But he writes so well  and i want to meet his YYS :) )

Ajay (He always has an interesting take on most things and he is one of my closest friends. How can i not tag him? Besides I want to meet his YYS too (and laugh my head off)  :P  :D)

and finally my very good friend (whom you see in the photo with me) Tony who does not have a blog, but he can use my comment box.  (Tony joked with me saying he would love to meet 200 gorgeous Indian women through my blog when I mentioned to him that my blog has more  800 subscribers and gets more than 400 page views in a single  day)
So here is your chance Tony :-)

(I really hope Tony does not kill me for this when I mail him the link tomorrow morning. :P  He has no clue about this post. If you don't see me after 3-4 days, please alert the Police. It might mean I have been murdered by Tony ) :-)

If anyone else wants to do this very interesting tag, please consider yourself tagged and  do leave me a comment after doing it and I will surely read.

 Travel back in time--it's a great pep-up :) (you can use my comment box if you dont have a blog)

Wishing you a happy monday to kick start the week.

Friday, October 01, 2010

Find yourself

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 A conversation I had with a one of  my closest friends last evening set me thinking.

Most of us, as adults today, have corporate jobs, or are doctors or accountants or lawyers or home makers or other such things. On the face of it, we all fit into Society's concept of  'successful adults'. By 'successful' I mean, 'well adjusted' or in other words, 'boxed-in'.

Why is it that we have very few creative thinkers? How many of us can claim to have done something original? By creative, I don't just mean creating a work of Art .(Not everybody has an inclination or an aptitude but my firm belief is that every single person can be taught  Art if they have a willingness to learn, even if you cannot draw a straight line. But more on that perhaps in a later post.)

By creativity I mean originality of thinking. I quote the following  from this  site

What is creativity?

Creativity is the bringing into being of something which did not exist before, either as a product, a process or a thought.

You would be demonstrating creativity if you:
  • Invent something which has never existed before
  • Invent something which exists elsewhere but you are not aware of
  • Invent a new process for doing something
  • Reapply an existing process or product into a new or different market
  • Develop a new way of looking at something (bringing a new idea into existence)
  • Change the way someone else looks at something

Creativity is the very essence of being. Yet most educational systems kill creativity.I agree completely with Sir Ken Robinson. (In case you have not heard of him, this talk by him is truly worth watching. It will take approximately 20 minutes)

As adults, many of us seem to lead 'dead lives'. We study hard, get great grades (or aspire to), get a job (which we sometimes crib about) , earn well, get married (sometimes to the completely wrong person), have kids, provide for the kids, happy when the kids grow up (and we pat ourselves on the back if they have managed to get a coveted degree--MIT, Yale.Havard, (on the presumption that education matters to most parents)), we grow old, we die.

But my question is have we really lived?

Where is the passion in your life? If you were to die tomorrow would you be satisfied? (If you have answered yes read no more, this post is not for you. If you are happy and content exactly the way you are living, good for you! Read no further :))

Would you be content having led the life you have led?

What are you doing with your life?

I truly believe that it is creativity and passion which can make all the difference between existing and truly living. An excellent book which I just finished reading is "I will not die an unlived life" by Dawna Markova. 

It is definitely  not a book for light reading and I do not think very young people (By very young I mean those below 25-26) or people who are just starting out their lives  (new mothers, ones who are just getting married or those who have just got their first job)  might appreciate it at this stage in their life. (But then again I may be wrong.)

Be Creative. (yes you definitely can if you open your mind to new possibilities, new opportunities and think beyond what is. It really is not too late ,no matter how old you are)

Find your passion.

This post seems to have ruffled a lot of feathers, judging by the comments I have got. :-) (Apologies if you were offended) .

Obviously what I have said had disturbed a lot of people, made them uncomfortable, made them think.I have enabled comment moderation for this post simply because of the large number of  'comments from disturbed people' I have received :-)

Most people who wrote the above comments do not even seemed to have watched the video I talked about or even seem t have bothered to find out what the book is about (unless you read how will you know?) and have dismissed it as 'modern bull sh***' without even considering there can exist an alternate view point or a different way of life.

Since I spend time in individually  replying to comments, I felt it was best I answer the 'disturbed souls' here rather than saying the same thing over and over to individual comments.If you are happy leading the lives you are leading who am I to ask you to change or who am I to question?! If you are happy so be it! Good for you!

If my saying the life is 'boxed-in' offended you , go ahead and label the creative souls as 'crazy' :-) I don't mind :-)

Dawna Markova does not ever say that you have to do 'something great' to be 'creative'. Her book is so magnificently written, so inspiring and very humbling.Her writing is sheer poetry. Unless you read you will not even know what I am talking about.

But thank you for taking the time to write the comment,. Hope I have answered what you have said and apologies if I have not published your comment.