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How to tell if it is the right decision.

It is summer in India. Bangalore is scorching hot. Thirty eight degree centigrade. Blazing sun. Skies so bright, you can't really  see the blue. Only white. Heat. Heat and more heat.

So you can imagine what state I must have been in at 1.00 pm when I finally reached the gas agency. I needed to buy a rubber tube and also get one of those consumer books. The gas agency was crowded, teeming with customers who had issues ranging from a booking not accepted, a cancelled gas connection and a transfer which needed to happen. The lines were long and tempers were short.

As I was waiting to be attended to,  in walks a bull. He was in full finery.



It reminded me of what my teacher had told me when I was about 7 or so. He had told me of 'Basavannas' in karnataka-- which is basically a bull that apparently answers questions with a yes or a no. My teacher said that if you ask Basavanna a question and say "Is that a yes basavanna' he will shake his head with a yes. if you ask the same question  and say 'is that a no basavanna?' he will shake his head again to indicate it's a no. What my teacher was trying to say was that you couldn't really get any meaningful answer from Basavanna.

He asked us to be decisive in life. To never be like basavanna.To weight the pros and cons when faced with a dilemma and to march boldly ahead.

Many a time we are plagued with doubts as to whether it is the right decision we made. We forget that sometimes we are just puppets with strings of destiny.
No matter what you do, whatever is ordained will occur. There is free will, yes. So we can choose what course of action to take. But some life events are truly not in our hands. So once you decide, whatever you have decided is the right decision. Do not worry about it.

This little lesson of philosophy was what passed through my head, as soon as I saw this Bull in the gas agency. I fished out a ten rupee note from my purse, and gave it to this Basavanna.

Walking around in the Bangalore heat, going from shop to shop , I think he truly earned it.

Till next time, stay cool, stay hydrated. Don't let the heat get to you.


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Comments

  1. What ever is destined to happen ,will happen

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  2. Looks like I was destined to read this post! ;) Nice article, Preeti :)

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  3. Looks like I was destined to read this post! ;) Nice article, Preeti :)

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  4. Probably You meant to say IT HAPPENS FOR A REASON.! ;)

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  5. Very true mam. It's the right time I read this post. Mam you were also into journalism. Can an aspiring author become a journalist to fulfil his financial needs before he can turn full time writing? Please suggest!

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  6. Isn't that what they say 'Que sera, sera'? We can stop ourselves from turning back once we make a decision, but the decision making itself is the biggest task. Every choice has got pros and cons. How do we choose the best among them?

    But what you said is similar to the quote 'Don't take the right decisions, take decisions and make them right'. It sure is the best remedy for a confused mind.:)

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  8. I wonder what experiences people who say 'a real man makes his own luck' had

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  9. I always think much before taking any important decision. Your view is true but it is difficult to apply in life but I think any body who applied upon his life with full of confidence definitely he gets advantage.

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  10. Nice,always looking forward for your views and try to learn something from it.��

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  11. Hey Preeti, I totally agree on what you have written. And loved the line 'we are just puppets with strings of destiny.' So so so so true! I was actually going through the emotional trauma on whether am I doing it right or wrong? But your post and words are like magic to me currently. thank you so much Preeti!

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  12. Hi Preeti. I am your big fan and I have all your books in my library. I am going thru some confusion at present regarding relations and emotions. You are not a psychiatric or motivational speaker. But your words are more touching than those two since they are more of natural feelings or situations one goes thru rather than predefined words. Your this blog has given some relief to me because what you said 'whatever happens is destined' is very much true.

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  13. Hi Preeti. I am your big fan and I have all your books in my library. I am going thru some confusion at present regarding relations and emotions. You are not a psychiatric or motivational speaker. But your words are more touching than those two since they are more of natural feelings or situations one goes thru rather than predefined words. Your this blog has given some relief to me because what you said 'whatever happens is destined' is very much true.

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  14. Results always let you know..!!! :)

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  15. Nice post preethi :) very pratical it sounded .. thank u for the post :)

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