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Box that up!

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Sometimes there is only that much you can do about a particular situation in your life.(am not talking about issues related to health or fitness here)

You might have tried your best to resolve the problem. If it involves a person (and most problems sooner or later do!), you might have tried your best to reason with them, cajole them, persuade them to make them see things your way, especially because you know you are right and they are making a mistake.

You might have been reasonable, you might have fought, you might have wanted things to go your way. But things refuse to change. It is the same vicious circle over and over again.

What do you do in times like that?
You let go. Accept that for now, this is the situation and nothing you say or do will make a difference.

Focus on other things where you can do something.

Do not think about the problem for now. Box it up. Put away the box.Do not get affected by the contents of the box.

Give it time.

And after about two months, open the box. You will be surprised just how much of it has vanished into thin air and how much it has resolved itself!

Sometimes it is really the best way.
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  1. Oh I am so glad that you wrote this post! Thank you so much of the advise :)

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  2. "Box that Up"--an excellent post and great advice. Ane that graphic rocks. Thanks for sharing.

    Bob

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  3. Loved the image! And so so true - I concur!

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  4. So true!! "Waqt ko thoda waqt do" is what I always believe in. It makes so much sense to concentrate on something where you can have ur efforts materialised rather than waste it on something where you have no control. Good one Preeti!

    BTW, the new look to the blog is fab!

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  5. vow there is a change on this page.. and it is nice.. love your pic on the top.. :) :) :)

    yes and box it up.. its a tried and tested method by me.. and it sure works :) :)

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  6. Nikhil: _____________

    Suku: Thanks :) Works most of the time :)

    Abhi:Thanks and tis hard to waqt sometimes!

    Shachi: ;-) Yep :-)

    Bob:Thanks.

    Mamta: {hug}

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  7. And sometimes before you can open that box again the issue gets resolved by itself ! You have to just let it be for a while :P

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  8. Your last two posts are really worthy reading for me. I am also in a kind of vicious circle trying to come out of it. But yet not. This may help. Keeping the box out for sometime. Let's hope.
    "Waqt ki mar;waqt hi thik kar sakta hai"

    Here is my post almost similar on it.
    http://precariousness.blogspot.com/2011/09/introspection.html

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  9. I loved the image and the new look of the BLOG....

    It made me smile:):):)...!!!!!

    U take care of your fans chooo much:*
    And it's festive time now, so box up all the unwanted stuff...!!
    Love
    Gayu

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  10. Nice, sweet and simple :)

    Time is the best healer known to mankind :)

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  11. hmmm... :)
    This post just made me smile... I have been having some similar thoughts in my head too.

    PS: Love the makeover!

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  12. Hi Preethi,
    You said it perfectly here. Someone may question this approach as "Giving up on it". But I truly believe sometimes we struggle for no reason and cause ourself more pain. Awesome picture too.

    Though I have read many of your posts and even your book, I am posting a comment for the first time. Keep writing :)

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  13. Hey Hey Hey - Misssssss the "Just a mother of two"

    New format is nice, but the old name .............

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  14. Im liking the new banner :D
    and the advice too :)

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  15. Cool banner....
    Best is just to let things go--they tend to get resolved on their own or else something better is waiting :)

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  16. I luv the image....

    Thanx 4 the post...

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  17. Excellent post...but the box in the pic is so sad as we dumped all problems in it :P

    and yes agree where we cant change the situation...we may let it go and focus on better things around...So True..

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  18. Anand:Thanks--but yes sometimes we need to box the problems!

    Krishna:My pleasure!

    Horizon: As difficult as it is, its true.

    Eve:Thanks!!

    Ramesh:Will mail you and explain! :)

    Manasi:Thanks for commenting :)

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  19. Aathira:Thanks!

    Shanthu:True!

    Gayu:Thanks so much :)

    Vipul: Nice quote that one about Waqt ki maar

    Ruchira;Yes very hard to but it is the best way.

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  20. Awesome post and as usual.. perfect timing !!! :-)

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  21. Dear Preethi,

    Lately, often, I am in these kinda situations and all am seeking at times is just an understanding (not even help !) and to be modest.Instead am only getting pushed to make their way and getting trapped.

    Now after seeing this blog, I feel that I simply need to Box up (my)expectations from them & be caring about what I am already having.

    Thankyou very much

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