Sunday, June 30, 2013

On working hard. (Post 19)

Most days I work a lot. I just can't sit still (except when I am meditating) or idle away time. It has become such an ingrained part of my personality that I don't even notice it. It is only when someone points it out that it hits home as to how hard-working I really am. Especially if that someone pointing it out, happens to be your fifteen year old son.

I had just cooked an elaborate Chinese three course meal. It turned out really well. ("Maaa, this is even better than the stuff at Mainland China", both my kids exclaimed, which is the ultimate compliment when it comes to Chinese cooking). I felt pleased as I had spent quite a lot of time in the kitchen making this, and it indeed had been a lot of work. (Like the protagonist in my book Tea for two and a piece of cake, I too have a done a certificate course in cooking).

A picture of the stuff I cooked'

Now, the one thing that I detest is a messy kitchen (or a messy home for that matter). So I asked my son to help me clear up.

There was stuff to be put away, stuff to be put for washing, table-mats to be put away, plates to be cleared. And finally the table had to be wiped clean.

My son, after a hearty meal, was feeling lazy. But of course I recruited him into 'The task of clearing up'.

'Okay--now put these plates for washing. Okay, now put away the mats. Okay--I have transferred the leftovers into smaller bowls--can you put them in the fridge?' I issued the orders like a General in the army, and he followed like a faithful soldier.

Finally he groaned 'Maaa--why do you always have to be so hardworking?'

After a stunned silence, I burst out laughing, and then told him I am definitely blogging about this.
:-)

Honestly--what choice did I have? :-) 

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Saturday, June 29, 2013

3-D quilling (Post 18)


Regular readers will know that I make a lot of quilled cards, especially name boards. You can view  them HERE.


Over the last two days, I have been trying something new. 3-D quilling!

I made a quilled angel.



You can see the front and back views. This angel is made up only of paper strips!







This picture here on the left gives you an idea of the size.



I somehow am now in love with the 3-D miniature quilling. I have been reading up about it and am astounded by the creative possibilities.

I tried my hand and I madea tiny flower pot with roses.



Whenever I discover something new, I am at it, like an obsessed person for a few days :) In fact, Satish will vouch that I am an obsessed person :)

Obsession, when directed well is good. It makes you achieve things. Keeps that adrenalin pumped.

I have made one more thing ( a man with a hat--I have named him Ivan) which has turned out really well. I have glued it and left it to dry. I shall upload a picture once the whole project is complete. (I intend making a family)




I  also intend making some more angels :-)

I sometimes toy with the idea of conducting a workshop just to teach all this--to help people discover the joy of creating something just from paper strips.

Perhaps I will--sometime!
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Friday, June 28, 2013

When the world seems to be a lousy place.. (post 17)


And when the world seems to be a lousy place when nobody loves me, when I get shouted at for no fault of mine, when I just feel like running away, I just crawl under the table and lie still, waiting for the feeling to pass.

And sometimes, my mummy crawls in there and stays with me. (and she always stays till I feel better)
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Thursday, June 27, 2013

Persist. (post 16)

It is amazing when you think about the difference in how others view you and how you view yourself. Others judge you by what you have achieved, while you judge yourself by what you are capable of achieving, or rather, to put it precisely, what you think you are capable of achieving. Sometimes all of these are vastly different from each other.

For instance, many newspapers write about me and they highlight 'blogger turned author'. This gives most people an impression that all you have to do to become a successful author is to start a blog. The fact is, I have always been in love with the written word, and I have always written. I used to write in a diary, every single day, since I was 12. In school, I have won lots of prizes for writing competitions. In college, I have won prizes at University level for short-story writing, creative writing and Public speaking among others. Before I became a published author, I wrote for many magazines, including Readers Digest. I have also written for Times of India.

The blog, no doubt helped me reach out. The popularity of this blog (this blog is among the top blogs in India) , no doubt pushed me towards my first book. But there was a lot of ground work, which had been happening for years, before that!

If you want to be a published author, it is not imperative to start a blog, though of course, a blog will help. A blog will help you to connect directly with your readers, give you a platform to showcase your writing skills, will help you get noticed, and you will also have a 'ready sample' of your writing when you approach people for writing assignments.

When I started this blog, it wasn't with any intention to get published. I wrote here everyday, because I loved to write and I wanted to connect to people. For months and months, nobody even read my blog. But I continued writing, as it gave me joy. I still remember how excited I was, when I first got a comment on my blog, from someone living in the UK. I remember flying down the stairs excitedly, telling Satish that someone from UK, actually could connect to what I was saying. That same someone, later went on to become a good friend. When I moved to the UK, I met him many times and to this day we remain in touch. Regular readers will know that I am referring to Niall Young, an awesomely talented artist and a wonderful human being. (My home is full of paintings by Niall)

The other day, at a social gathering, a discussion about writing came up and when I mentioned that I am doing a blog-marathon, most people in the group were taken aback. 'Oh my God, I could never do that. It just isn't my cup of tea,' they said in admiration. But I was just doing something that came naturally to me.

I write, because I love to write. I do the blog-marathon, as a challenge. Ask a marathon runner and he/she will tell you that he/she runs because they love to run.

I do believe that is so essential to success. You have to be passionate about something if you want to keep doing it day-in and day-out. Malcolm Gladwell in his book 'Outliers' (a brillant book--i loved it) says that it takes roughly 10,000 hours of practice to achieve mastery in any field.

And if you have to persist for that long. you will be miserable, if you are forcing yourself to do it.

Discover what gives you joy. Do what comes to you naturally. Do what you enjoy.

Persist.

Persist.

Persist.

And you will find success chasing you, instead of the other way round.


And even if it doesn't, you will still be  happy.
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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Wordless Wednesday 37. Blue (post 15)


A picture I clicked in a small street bazaar in Bangalore, India. Loved the blue and the colours in this pic.

This is my entry for Wordless Wednesday.
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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

A gift from the heart (post 14)

One of the things about writing--it is baring your soul. In order to be a writer, you have to be brave. You have to create something and send it out into the world, hoping that others will like your baby as much as you.  It is almost like standing naked for everyone to see, and comment.

And not everyone is kind. You will face a lot of criticism, ridicule and jealousy. You have to have a thick-skin really!

But the good part is, if you are successful and if your words have touched a chord and made a place in someone's heart---oh the love you receive! It is overwhelming, incredible and simply a marvelous, top-of-the-world feeling.

I have been very fortunate to have all my books do exceedingly well because people find an emotional connect in my writing. And no matter how many fan-mails I get, I still feel fantastic when someone writes in. (I do get back to replying eventually, even if after a delay)


But one of the mails that I got--I just had to reply back immediately: This is what I  received  (shared with permission of the writer)


Hi preeti
I am a regular reader of your blog and I have read all your books. I really like your writing. When ever I have a dull day or a moment I open your blog and read some of your old posts. I find them really inspiring.
I do a bit of quilling and I made this for you.( I have also commented on some of your cards). I hope I get to meet you in one of the book launches and give this to you. (till date I couldn't make it to any of your book launches due to some reason or other :( )
This is dedicated for your book 'a tea for two and a piece of cake'.  I loved that book. I have read it 3 times till now.
Thank you for all the wonderful writing. Wish you all the happiness in your life.
Love
Pooja
PS: I also want to make a small kettle so that this becomes a complete set! . Will do it before I meet you next :)


And this is what she made for me:



 How awesome is that?!! :)

I am still *beaming* :)

Thank you Pooja!!
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Monday, June 24, 2013

The AI-1. (Post 13)

My daughter who is 12, was given a project in her class. She had to present any gadget with modifications which she wished existed. She could either take an existing gadget and write about the features she wished it had,  or she could think up of an entirely new gadget.

Of course, she chose the latter.

She invented something which she called the AI-1


This was the cover of her project.

And here is what was inside:



 I thought it was really creative and clever. On the right side, you can see that she has drawn a button--if you press it, the gadget turns into a small micro-chip. On the left side there is another button which if you press, it turns into a giant television with suction cups which you can then fix on a wall and watch. It also comes with a mini-pocket charger.  She has explained the other features of the gadget , as you can see.

When she came home from school, I asked her whether she presented her project and what the teacher said. My daughter just shrugged and said that the bell went before her turn came, and it would probably come in the next class.
'Never mind. You can always present it later,' I said.

But my daughter said that she was going to make a new one.

'Why? This is so good, original and clever,' I said.

She replied that another student had presented something which did not exist in the real world, and the teacher felt it was too 'virtual'. (sic)

So my daughter felt she would say the same about her gadget too.

I didn't know what to say.

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Sunday, June 23, 2013

A modern day monster (post 12)

While the Internet has totally revolutionized the way we live, making it so easy to do anything really, where everything is  literally a click away, it also has given us one of the biggest monster of our times-- FOMO.
(Click on the link to read a superbly written piece on this)

To quote from the above article:

 We are so connected with one another through our Twitter streams and Foursquare check-ins, through our Facebook and LinkedIn updates, that we can’t just be alone anymore. The fear of missing out (FOMO) — on something more fun, on a social date that might just happen on the spur of the moment — is so intense, even when we’ve decided to disconnect, we still connect just once more, just to make sure.

A joint research study conducted by Berlin’s Humboldt University and the Darmstadt’s Technical University reveals that spending  a large amount of time on social networks leads to negative feelings. There are many more such studies which support this finding.

While social networks are supposed to make us feel connected, the fact is, it causes 'warped friendships'. It is so easy 'to be a friend' on facebook. Someone posts a status saying they are feeling unwell, and immediately it gets responses saying 'Awww..get well soon' etc. I am not for a moment suggesting that the wishes for a recovery are fake. What I am saying is that, it is definitely easy to post a response to this message, in a single line, having felt that 'you did something'. A true friend would call to find out how you were doing, and would probably turn up at your door-step with Khichdi  and Soup.


Users have confessed that they feel good and happy about their lives, until they log into their Facebook Accounts. These are not just teenagers, but also adults. They constantly compare themselves to the pictures which their friends posted (Oh, I had a great vacation in greece. We went to Iceland for a vacation) and then wonder what they are doing with their lives.

Many a time, Facebook also causes intense feelings of 'having been left out' when you discover that all your 'friends' went to a movie, without you, or had a party and you discovered it through Facebook.

Of course, we all only post 'our best side' on Facebook. We show only the good things. I had once posted a tweet which said that 'How come everybody is happy, smiling and having a great time' on Facebook?

While I do use Facebook extensively to interact with my readers  (I find Facebook a fantastic medium for this) I also limit the time I spend on this site.  Browsing endlessly through albums of other people whom you don't even know, I find is, such a waste of precious time.
 Time which could have been used more effectively in picking up that phone and speaking to your friend---or better still, visiting them and having real conversations.

I am truly grateful for the network of my closest friends, who I value so much.

And not a single one of them, connects with me on FB.

Our relationship is 'real' not just virtual.

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Saturday, June 22, 2013

What do you write about? (post 11 blog marathon)

 Last evening, we had a dinner party with a couple of good friends.

There were some people whom I was meeting for the first time and who hadn't heard of me. One of them asked me 'What do you write about?'

If I were to answer honestly, I would say I write about everything. I write about a leaf fallen on a pavement that prompted me to write  a poem. I write about my guinea pigs. I write about relationships. I write about my feelings and those of others. I write about marriages.I write about places that I find interesting. I write about people I find interesting. I write funny stuff sometimes. I write inspirational stuff sometimes. Mostly I just write whatever is on top of my mind at that point in time.I write straight from the heart.

I wanted to say all of this. Instead I found myself giving the standard answer which I give when people ask me that question.  I found myself saying 'I write commercial fiction and I am one of India's popular authors.Just google my name and you will get all details.'

I really do not know if people actually care when they ask that question. Perhaps it is idle curiosity. Perhaps they are genuinely interested. Perhaps  they are not. The reactions I get from people when I say that I am an author are varied.

Most are very impressed on meeting me. They invite me to their homes  for a cup of tea (and I am always grateful for that). Some couldn't care less. Some remember my details  and then get in touch with me later,asking if I would read a manuscript written by someone they know, or they write and ask me how to get published. Some cannot believe that I am actually 'Preeti Shenoy'. :)

When I meet people, I am not even conscious that I am a popular author.

It is only when they ask what I do, that I remember!

I am of course happy and proud of all my success. But I do honestly believe I have a very long way to go yet.
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Friday, June 21, 2013

How to deal with a difficult parent. (Blog marathon post 10)




Last evening I got this mail in my inbox:

Dear Preeti,

I am a regular reader of your blog and I have read  two of your books too. I
really enjoy your writing style. But more than the style, what completely
impresses me is your great insight about life. I love all those positive
things you write - be it about time management, living life to the fullest
or showing your love to those who matter.

I have been wanting to write to you for a very long time. But I hesitated,
because we have never met or spoken before. But now I saw that you are on a
blog marathon. So I felt this was the right time to mail you, because you
would be obviously in the look out for fresh topics.  I was wondering if
you could take some time out and blog about the issue I have in my life...


I lost my Dad in an accident when I was 4 years old and my sister was 6
years of age. We come from a middle class family hailing from Kerala. My
mom had a government job. My mom was a typical Indian wife who cooked and
cleaned, and had no idea  about what happened in the outside world. After
we lost our Dad, no one came to help us out in any way. So my mom struggled
a lot to raise me and my sister. And I love my mom a lot for all that she
has done for us. That said, my mom is a very unreasonable woman. Even
though she is a very caring person, she never gives me any peace of mind.
She nags and fights with me over every little thing in the world. I do care
a lot about her, and try hard to keep her happy. But at  the end of it, she
still picks on something and blames me about it. Iam tired of trying to
keep her happy all the time.

Then, I met a wonderful woman - an attractive, fun, intelligent and genuine
person. We used to work together in Bangalore, fell in love and got
married. After marriage, I moved to the Middle East, because I got a better
job offer. And I took my mom and wife with me. And ever since we got
married, things have got worse. My mom and wife are always at logger heads.
Initially, my wife was very understanding and supportive. She used to
silently deal with my mom, and she was actually sympathetic towards my mom.
Infact, she used to even mediate the fights between me and my mom. But
after a while, my wife could take no longer.

Now the scene in my house is very chaotic. There is not a single day I can
remain peaceful in my life. I do know that most of the time it is my mom
who is at fault. But she is beyond any reasoning or logic. Since my wife is
an intelligent woman, I tell her to be more understanding. But my wife says
that Iam being very cruel to her, by closing my eyes to my mom's rudeness.
Now things have reached a point where my mom and wife can't stand each
other. My wife is an independent woman who likes to live her life on her
own terms. And my mom is of the old school and believes in controlling both
me and my wife. She doesn't let us enjoy any couple time. She creates a big
hue and cry when I take my wife out. I do know that we are entitled to
couple time. And I don't blame my wife for wanting it. But since my mom is
reacting very strongly against it, I find it very hard to take my wife out.

I don't know how to balance this situation. My mom is old and lonely in her
life. She is overtly dependent on me for everything. And she doesn't want
to live away from me. I can't afford to provide her a different home with
all amenities in the Middle East. I will have to send her back to Kerala.
But I know that she won't be able to cope with that at all. And even I
don't have the heart to do it. I love my mom very dearly.

But I love my wife also very much. She is adamant that she doesn't want to
live with my mom anymore. I know its unfair to tell my wife to tolerate my
unreasonable mom. My wife is a really lovely person, and my mom has hurt
her many times.  But my mom has lived all her life and sacrificed all her
happiness for me and my sister. I want them both, and I want them both to
be happy.

Whenever you are looking for something to blog about, can u pls blog about
my situation? I would really like to hear your feedback about it. I  do
feel that you have a great way of dealing with difficulties in life. And I
feel that since you are both a wife and a mother, you would understand the
perspective of both my wife and mom. My wife is an independent thinking,
open-minded woman of today. But my mom is a narrow-minded, conservative,
dependent person. Feel free to share this mail on your blog, but pls don't
disclose my full name.. If someone has a
similar experience, it would be great to read their experience in your
comment box.

Thank-you so much for reading it. I am really looking forward to your
suggestions and tips.
Warm Regards



After reading the mail, I felt I had to publish it in my blog.

Here is my take on this situation.

Dear Reader who has requested to be anonymous,

Firstly I understand your pain and frustration, and deep sense of duty towards your mother. Your mother raised you and your sister, after your father passed away, and you feel extremely duty-bound towards her, because of this. As a son you have been really dutiful and you have brought her along with you to the Middle East. Your wife has tried her best to be understanding and sweet towards your mother, but both of you are now at your wits end, because of your mother's unreasonable behaviour.

By going on giving in to your mother's demands, you have inadvertently set yourself up for the 'victim' role.  I am sorry to say this so frankly--but your mother is definitely bullying you. You are unable to say a firm NO to her. There are constant fights between your mother and you and you have said that your wife used to even mediate between you two. I must say your wife is a remarkably understanding woman.


Perhaps your mother is subconsciously projecting her  frustrations on to you? It must definitely not have been easy for her to raise you and your sister by herself. She must be having a lot of suppressed pain and emotions, which she does not know how to deal with. It comes out in her interactions with you, as you are the closest to her. (we are usually our true selves only to the ones closest to us)


You have not mentioned what your sister does. Is she earning? Can you not send your mother to your sister's place for 6 months of the year, and then keep her with you , for the remaining six?

You also have not mentioned whether your mother has any siblings or not. Can your mother not spend a month or two with a sibling?

I understand your mother is old. But by letting her being overtly dependent on you, to the point of it affecting your marriage--that is just not done. No matter how much she has sacrificed for you and your sister, rudeness is just not acceptable---especially towards your children, who love you!

As much as we love our parents, we have to realize  that we are really not responsible for our adult parent's happiness. What you are trying to do is parent your mother (By trying to be everything for her)--and that is simply not possible. Quit trying to make her happy all the time. You cannot do that. She has to take responsibility for her happiness--ALLOW her to do so. (Right now, from what I gather, the moment she wants you to 'fix something', whether, real or imagined, you rush and oblige.Stop doing that.) Do not allow her to pick on you.

You will definitely have to put your foot down and tell your mother that you have to take your wife out. She might resist in the beginning. Be firm but kind towards your mother. Be patient towards her. Don't fight with her. Just smile and say "Yeah mama--I will be back at so-and-so time and we are going to so-and-so place." She is bound to throw a huge tantrum probably. Be prepared for it. But whatever disapproval she expresses, don't react or retort. Just smile. (This is easy to say but very very hard to follow, I know..because this is what I try to do)

Your wife is a woman who fell in love with you--and you too love her a lot and appreciate her so much. Keep that love alive. Guard it. Do not allow negativity to cloud that. It is precious. Tell your wife how much you appreciate her. Hold her hand. Take her for drives (if you own a car). tell her how beautiful she looks, and how much you admire her intelligence.

Tell your mother that you love her a lot, but you will not tolerate negativity, fault-finding and rudeness. And sending her to Kerala for 6 months or 3 months or whatever time-frame you choose, is really not being cruel, provided she is in a safe and comfortable place. So don't feel guilty about it.

I do hope my words have helped.
May your home be filled with love and peace. 
 Sending you positive vibes.
Love
Preeti

I do invite all of you, to comment with your take on the situation. Do share your thoughts. If you want to remain anonymous, you can. (All it takes is a valid e-mail id for commenting on this blog. Name need not be disclosed)

Sharing is empowering.

Do offer your thoughts, and perhaps they will help this person who has reached out and is asking for help.

I look forward to your comments

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Thursday, June 20, 2013

Two unforgettable scenes. (Post 9. Blog marathon)

Today I thought I would share two of my favourite scenes from movies I have loved. (Oh there are hundreds--but I thought I would share two)

Here goes:





Loved this one! Unforgettable scene from scent of a woman (next to probably only the Tango scene)Al pacino is fantastic in this one. Totally captures how you should view life.  Live it to the fullest! This scene is such a pick-me-up'. Awesome!





This one from 'The pursuit of Happyness' is so darn inspirational.. "Don't listen to anyone. You got a dream, you have to protect it. People can't so something--they want to tell you, you can't do it."






If you haven't seen these two movies, go watch them now~!
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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Life's detours. (Post 8, blog marathon)



Today a good friend, again a best-selling author of children's books, Sonja Chandrachud called me up.

Sonja with one of her books


Sonja was the one who launched my book Tea for two and a piece of cake, at Pune and she had conducted the session beautifully.(She totally loved the book too :) )

We had a very long, lovely and interesting conversation. I always enjoy my conversations with my Author friends (like mentioned in yesterday's post). It is wonderful to talk to minds that have so much to offer. I find it very stimulating.

One of the things Sonja and I discussed was about how we make plans and yet life takes you in a completely different direction. She shared her experiences and I shared mine. Both of us concluded that trying to control everything in our lives, is really an exercise in futility.

Does that mean you have to stop making plans and trying to get to your goal, as everything is pre-destined? No! Certainly not.

It just means that you have to be open-minded enough to enjoy the detours that life throws at you. The road may be long and winding. The road may not take you to where you want to go. But what would really make a difference is how you ride the path, and how willing are you to make the best use of the destination the path has taken you to, and then make plans as to how to now reach the original goal (which may have shifted by then).  Complicated, isn't it?

I for one, am glad that I have such a wonderful support system--family which stands by me, friends who love me a lot and folks like you who shower me with so much adulation/love/fan-mails etc.

I think no matter what you achieve in life, it will always be sweeter when you have people in your life who genuinely care for you.

If you are blessed enough to have even one such person, appreciate them and let them know. Keep in touch with them. Call them and connect to them. (Not just through Facebook or whatsapp!). Go see them in person and spend time with them.

And sometimes, when things do not go your way, take a deep breath and let go!

And yes, while you are at it, try to see the good in the detours.
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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Change (Blog marathon post 7)


“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.”
             ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower 

This morning I was thinking about change. Change is the only constant thing in life. I guess this is true for every one. Take yourself to 18th June 2008--basically, rewind your life,  five years back and answer these questions:

  1. What were you doing ?  
  2. Who were your closest friends? Are they still in your life with the same closeness?
  3. Where were you living?
  4. Were you more satisfied and content then than you are now? Why or why not?

If I were to answer it, my answers would be as follows:

1. I had just written my first article for Readers Digest and was very pleased about it. I was elated to be published by a magazine of such repute and stature. It was a dream come true.

2. My closest friends of that period --they aren't that close to me anymore. I am still in touch with them--but it is an ocassional 'hello--how are you'. Their lives have taken them in a different direction and I have gone in a completely different direction; (Things change, Friends leave).

3. I was living in Pune at that time

4. No--I am definitely more content and happier now, because I am so much more successful and well-known today, than I was back then.

Today I had a long and a very enriching conversation with a  fellow-author and a good friend Ravi Subramanian. (The best-selling author of Bankster,  If God was a Banker  and three more books). It was wonderful to talk about writing and other stuff.

After I hung up, I sat for a very long time, thinking about how authors are now my good friends  and how much my life has changed.

Then a quote from a movie came to my head. It was so relevant, so apt and made so much sense that I had to share it with you.

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button screenplay

I think every now and then, we ought to pause and explore our options. We ought to assess our opportunities and  we should think about whether the path we have taken will get us towards our goal. We may not always stick to the path--after all life is so darn unpredicatble.

But I do believe that if you go through life, without much thinking about what you want from it, then you grow old quickly.

Change--Pursue it, Woo it and Make it your own. It is hard in the beginning--but oh the rewards!
 And may all success be yours.
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Monday, June 17, 2013

Two pictures that show patience. (Post 6 of blog marathon)

My soul is happy when I create stuff--be it a picture, a book(a novel) , a poem---anything really which makes my internal world a happier place.

If I don't create stuff, I  feel shriveled up from the inside. I can spend hours and hours by myself, sitting at my desk--listening to music and creating art. I don't much crave company .(unless it is of close friends who have known me for ages)

I am going to show you two things which I made, which i was quite pleased about..


I didn't know what I was making when I started out. I just kept going and this is what emerged. I quite like it :) It was a LOT of work and needed a tremendous amount of patience.




I liked the idea of the cat waiting patient;y, sitting so still, gazing out of the window. I like the idea of waiting for something. In today's 'instant-fix' times, I think sometimes, this stillness is good.

Today I am a happy soul :)
 Hope your day has been pleasant as well.


And till tomorrow, stay safe, peaceful and blessed.

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Sunday, June 16, 2013

Weird Questions Meme. Blog marathon post 5.

It's been quite a while since I did memes on my blog. So for today's post,  I thought I would do one  from Sunday Stealing as today is a Sunday. Besides, the questions also are different from the ones I usually get in my Interviews :) (I get tired of answering the same questions over and over! "How did you get into writing?" "Where do you get your inspiration from" "How do you manage doing so many things." "What are your future plans" "What is your book about" etc etc)

Here goes the weird questions meme  from Sunday stealing:


What is your ring size?
I have no idea! I wear three rings though. One belongs to my dad (hence a Man's ring) and one is a diamond one gifted by Satish, and the third is a kind of a stone.

How often do you wear jewelry?  
Every day mostly. But on some days, I don't.


When was the last time you consumed alcohol?  
Last evening. (and no it wasn't Vodka.).


Any big plans for the summer?  
 Summer is still a year away.


What is your favorite comfort food?  
Curd rice! I can eat it anytime.


Do you prefer broccoli or asparagus?  
 Broccoli please.



What color are your bedroom walls?  
 Pale Cream  and they have some absolutely marvelous paintings by Niall Young.

With whom do you live?  
Family..Husband, kids, dog and a guinea pig :)

Which Star Wars movie is your favorite?

I hate Star wars.

How about Harry Potter?  
 I hate Harry Potter too.

What was the last movie you saw in theaters?  
yeh jawaani hai deewani

Did you get the popcorn or candy?
Pop-corn.  I hate candy. (just realised that i seem to hate most things most people like- for instance, Star-wars, Harry Potter and Candy)

What is the most romantic text in your inbox?  
 Do people text anymore? They use only whatsapp and chaton and bbm, I thought. I don't know about 'most romantic text'  but I did get a marriage proposal on FB recently. I laughed my head off.

Have you ever played miniature golf on a date?  
Never even played normal golf. last time I played Golf was on a video game.

What’s a phrase you overuse?  
'Lissssen..you aren't listening' is something I use often which reveals a lot about how much my family actually listens when I say something. No wonder I write so many books. At least my readers listen to me. heh heh :D


Do you always use good grammar?

Only when I am writing something. In messages I use words like ain't and coz and U.

Do you have an accent or a speech impediment?  

Wrote a whole post on Accents here

What did you eat today?  

 Upma for breakfast , pav-bhaji for lunch and Chinese for dinner. I made the breakfast and dinner. Ate out for the afternoon meal.



What do you do at work?  
I dream and imagine stuff.

Do you know the rules to any sports?
I should think so. I played basketball at National level many years back. Unless of course they have changed the rules since my time. heh heh :D

Do you prefer to watch or play sports?  
Definitely play.

What is your favorite kind of hat to wear?  
If I had to wear a hat, it would be a cowboy hat.

Do you pray?  
Yes. Mostly Every day.


To whom do you pray?  
To the Universe, to the higher powers, to Lord Vishnu, To Infant Jesus, To Goddess at Chottanikara temple in Kerala, to my dad.

What is the closest mountain to your house?  

Doddabeta Mountain (8650 feet) ,which is about 197 kms from Bangalore, which is where I now live.


What size engine is in your vehicle?  
 2ZR-FE, Gasoline, 4 cylinder inline.16 Valve, DOHC, Dual VVT-i(Dual Variable) 1798 cm³ (cc)
(Oh how I love google :D )

What do you need to do tomorrow?
 Need to  walk, exercise, write, create, cook, read and try to be more happy.

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I enjoyed answering the questions on this meme.. Try it--it's fun!
And if you don't blog, feel free to use my comment box to answer these weird questions.
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