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12 lessons I learnt from 2012

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12 lessons I learnt from '12

'12 has almost ended and '13 is nearly here. End of the year always feels emotional for most people. A new year brings new hope. It is almost as if a notch has been made in the annals of time.

I am no different.
I take stock at the end of the year, look back, reminisce and make my resolutions for the new year.
If you want to read about 5 powerful tips to follow those resolutions, read the earlier post that I
wrote.


A newspaper called me up the other day to ask what were the highlights  for me in 2012.I have had a good year career-wise.(two published books, both doing really well--touchwood). But more than the career, I think what makes a difference is the lessons that we learn, as we go through life's experiences.

Here are 12 lessons that I learnt from '12.


1. If people really want to keep in touch with you, they will always find a way. 'Too busy', 'swamped with work' etc are just excuses.

2. Focus and discipline pays.

3. People are never what they appear to be. Some are horribly two faced. They do not mean what they say and are manipulative. Accept them but do not let them affect you.

4.For some, you will always be an option, not a priority. Take a call and decide if you are okay with it,

5.It is not selfish to walk away from a situation that makes you unhappy. If you are unhappy, leave.

6.It is not always wise to speak the truth. A white lie is okay if it spares someone's feelings. Honesty isn't always the best policy. There are always shades of grey (not just fifty:) )

7.Invest time in yourself. Take time to sit in silence, and get used to your own company. You will be amazed when you begin to hear your heart's whispers.

8.Do not presume everyone has your best interests at heart. They don't! They may seem to, but remember to take whatever they say with a huge pinch of salt. Jealousy does strange things to people.

9.The best source of advice is your own mind. Nobody else, no matter how close they are to you, will be able to see the situation, in the exact same way that you do. Trust your judgement.

10.Situations change, People change. Sometimes they change together. It seems really horrible and awful when that happens, but it shall pass. Better times are in store.

11. Best way to feel good about something you can do nothing about is to do nothing! Instead do something about the things you care about. Like a hobby.

12. Have at least one friend who is at least 15 years younger than you. (if you are only 15, what are you doing reading my blog?! Go study for your board exams! heh heh) Have another friend who is 15 years older. Both will be good for your soul.

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Comments

  1. Anonymous10:19 AM

    GoodMorning Preethi.....Ur post has given me a great start to my day!! when ever i see new post in your blog, it eigher brings me joy or source of inspiration, always i feel like u have written this for me...(haha..i know ur fans would mind this!), Thanks alot for everything u do for readers!! Sincere Best Wishes for future endeavours!

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    1. very glad :)
      Thanks a lot :) and no my fans are very sweet--they wont mind :)

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  2. loved this post and its very true Preeti :)

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  3. Wow!!amazingly well written post..I especially loved points 1,5,6,8.
    I have this very close friend of past 10 yrs who doesn keep in touch apart from the times when i call up etc..but when we meet she is the same person - sweet n caring. I have tried my best to keep in touch with her from past 2 yrs without any effort on my part...now i dun know what to do..its soo confusing..
    thanks a lot for the tips Preeti..I actually keep checking your blog several times a day to see if you have put up another blog post!!

    http://shilpikarnani.blogspot.in/

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    1. Sometimes doing nothing will give you answers! Many a times I also dont call up friends--but when they do I am glad. maybe it depends on how important the relationship is for you.

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  5. through ur blog mam..i guess i got many of my answers from life...dats been goin.
    And m happy dat though u dnt knw me personally...but i seem to have found a friend ( which according to u must be 15 years older ;) )
    anyways seriously u are too too good..last nite only i completed ur new book and it gave me to think about a new dimension of life...i guess it will help me in life as m just 23 :)
    point no 5 is wat made me think a lot...its like the one mentioned in ur new book like diksha :)
    Shashank.

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    1. Glad it makes you think and happy you think of me as a friend :)

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  6. Fabulous lessons - I need to work on the focus and discipline part more and I completely agree with investing more in yourself part. Wonderful points all of them -Thank you for this Post Preeti.

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  7. A gem of a post :)! I'm such a lucky duck to have a 15+ and a 15- year friend :)! Happy 2013 ...wishing international bestsellers for you!

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  8. Hey Preeti, beautiful post. Truely inspiring!!!
    Specially point no. 11. I have decided that now will pursue my hobby.
    Keep writing like this.

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    1. Hobbies are so darn important!

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  9. Lessons that everyone should learn...thanks for sharing...

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  10. Good one Preeti..I liked the points 5,6,9,10

    Point 2 I need to concentrate. Again for me 2012 was great since I started reading your blogs. I should tell you that it helped me in several different ways. I began to love myself more, learnt to be happy and positive always.

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  11. Wise words and really nice post!! Very thoughtful points indeed!:)

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  12. thank you for this post....you are a very positive person....

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    1. Not always but I bounce back :)

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  13. awesum... simple n straight forward...

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  14. That was just splendid!!!!! Amazing facts!!! :)

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  15. That was just splendid!!!!! Amazing facts!!! :)

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  16. Loved the 7th one. So need to do it.

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  17. No.7 really resonated with me! We all need to be taught to do it more often :)

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  19. its just amazing!!! must follow em....btw I don't agree with you I love reading your blog than studying for my exams:P

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    1. :D ha ha..all the best!! Maybe you can be friends with a new born baby?:P :D Jokes apart--study hard and shine in your exams.

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  20. indeed mam "A GEM OF A POST" (as sachi mam said).....i dnt knw wat to say ???? jus dt ke v r ur.....ETERNAL fans:)

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  21. U r a strong women.. Keep it up always.. You are so positive and living life as it is and to the fullest.. God bless you...

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  22. Ur points are a true reality. .Hope it will Bring a change in my life. .thanks a lot. .

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  23. This has to be printed and kept in my purse I guess! Any time, this one post is enough to bring back myself !!

    Thanks Preeti:)

    Wishing you a great 2013 !

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  24. Hello Preeti,

    You and all loved one have a amazing new year ahead.... fill with joy and happiness....
    Looking for the next post...

    Cheers and Happy new year...
    /Anish

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  25. Impressive points..

    loved all d points specially 1, 4, 5 & 7th..

    i m gonna write these points in my diary

    keep motivating us , u r such a nice motivator as well as eye opener :))

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  26. Preeti di really luv u lot.... hoping some more books in 2013.... k bye n tk cr..

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  27. Deepika

    Hi Preeti printed these lines and sticked it in my workplace...M a mom of 1 year old,i have a strange feeling tht i dont have time for myself....household chores , baby sitting, work at office..back home and this is my routine ...
    i need few tips of time management ...
    Thanks for the above tips :)

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  28. 4 is so hard hitting. 6 is very true. 12 is a gem - immediately on my action items for this year.

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  29. Hey Preeti

    Happy New Year! Great lessons - I liked 2,7 and 15 :).. My list is @ http://nipmu.blogspot.in/2013/01/life-lessons-of-2012.html
    Happy New Year 2013!

    Nischala

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  30. Hey Preeti
    Great list.. I like 2,7 and 15 :).. My list is @ http://nipmu.blogspot.in/2013/01/life-lessons-of-2012.html
    Happy New year!
    Nischala

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  31. Hi Preeti...u are really an opinion shaper....Thank you..

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